Swinging saved our romance (true story)

Swinging saved our romance (true story)

Most women would run for the hills if they found out their new boyfriend was a serial cheat.

But when Terri Ellwood discovered her date had been unfaithful to his ex-wife more than ten times, she had a very different reaction.

Lee Blackley told her the only way he could remain “faithful” would be if she allowed him to sleep with other women.

Desperate to make a go of it, Terri AGREED — and promised to be there while he did it.

Now the pair both regularly sleep with other couples and, as they prepare to tie the knot this year, the bride-to-be admits becoming a swinger was the only way to save her relationship.

Terri, 26, says: “I love it now but at first I wasn’t so sure.

“I really liked Lee and was devastated when I found out he’d cheated on every past partner.

“I didn’t want to end things and I knew he liked me too.

“He asked if I could come round to the idea of swinging.

“I thought it was just for weird older couples but when he showed me all the attractive young couples on swinging websites, I thought I should give it a go.

“Now I’m happily a swinger with Lee, and I’m safe in the knowledge he’ll never cheat — unless I’m in the room.”

Terri, from Lowestoft, Suffolk, first met engineer Lee in February 2015 after joining dating site Plenty of Fish.

The two hit it off and just four weeks later, met for their first date.

Terri, a retail worker, thought she had found the man of her dreams, until Lee, 30, made a shock confession.

She says: “We had been talking until the early hours and getting on so well, then Lee just blurted it out.

“He told me he had never been able to be faithful to any girlfriends, and even admitted having a secret ‘cheating’ phone to organise his late-night hook-ups.

“I was gobsmacked. Lee was adamant he wanted to stay with me but admitted he struggled to remain faithful, sexually, due to such a strong desire to sleep with other women. I doubted how we could ever make this work.”

Despite Lee’s confession, Terri gave him a chance and the pair made their relationship official in April 2015.


SWINGING: WHAT IS IT?

Practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.


But six months later, Lee called Terri with a very surprising offer.

She recalls: “Lee said he wanted to be with me but asked if we could bring someone else into the bedroom for a threesome. It was totally out of the blue.

“I wanted Lee to be happy and I’d always been open-minded but the idea of being with someone else made me nervous. Lee was really patient and understanding.

“We discussed it for hours, how it would work, who it would be with. I ended up being intrigued by the idea.”

The following night, Lee showed Terri a swinging website where they could find a potential third person to join them.

She says: “I really enjoyed looking at the different women with Lee and when we both found one of them attractive, I was actually excited to message her.

“She wrote back saying she was interested and I knew I wanted to try it.”

Two weeks later they met her in a hotel, with Terri feeling “terrified” Lee would “like her more than me”.

She adds: “But as soon as I met her, I felt at ease. After chatting and flirting a bit we started to become intimate in the bedroom.

“It was such a thrill when Lee watched me with her, and I really enjoyed watching Lee too.

“When we went home Lee and I sat up for hours talking about it — what we liked and what we didn’t.”

Despite it being their first time, Lee was keen to introduce more people to their relationship.

She says: “We signed up to swingers websites to meet other couples and a few months later, we had our first foursome. It was just as thrilling as the first time.

“We now meet couples a lot more as we find it more enjoyable — and with another couple, there is more fun for everyone.”

Terri and Lee attend swinging parties every six weeks, always using protection — although it takes a lot of planning to find someone to share their bed.

Terri says: “Most of it is done online. We choose together.

“If one of us doesn’t fancy them then we have a rule where we can veto them.

“You don’t just go to a party and that’s it. When you meet couples you message each other and have a social meet beforehand to warm up to the main event — just like dating.

“We have a few regular couples we meet at hotels.

“It took a while to get used to sex parties.

“At first we just watched but now we are getting more involved and I love it. I’m a totally different person when I’m there.

“So far we’ve been with just over ten different couples between us, and we’ve swung everywhere — hotels, houses and even a caravan.”

Despite Terri and Lee’s free attitude to partner sharing, they have a set of rules they both must abide by.

She says: “When it comes to sex, we do everything together: that’s the most important rule.

“We never meet anyone on our own and we always message as a couple.

“It’s important that he respects me.

“I never thought I’d be OK with seeing my boyfriend have sex with another woman, let alone be comfortable with him seeing me sleep with another man. It’s centred around trust.

“I would not be OK with Lee meeting someone on his own. I would consider that cheating.”

Other stipulations include no kissing and the couple are only allowed to swing away from their home.

Terri says: “I made the rule early on that kissing isn’t allowed — and we never meet anyone in our home.

“Our bedroom is sacred to me. I don’t mix swinging but our private relationship is in our house.

“Sex with just the two of us is still the most important thing to me. It’s vital to have your own intimate relationship alongside swinging.”

Facts and figures

  • Two million people in the UK swap partners to spice up their sex lives
  • 60% of swingers say swinging has been beneficial to their relationship
  • Clubs, holidays & websites are available for swingers to set up partner swapping
  • 10% of swingers have an STI

Now, more than two years after Lee’s cheating bombshell, the couple are happier than ever.

Lee has no intention of straying — in fact, they are planning their wedding for October.

Terri says: “I’ve never been more in love. I sometimes get jealous and worry other women are better than me, or more attractive.

“But Lee is quick to reassure me that I’m the one he loves. I can’t wait to tie the knot — but it’ll definitely be just the two of us on our wedding night.

“I love sharing my man with other women but now I know it’s me taking him home.”

Lee says: “When I first met Terri, I knew she was the one for me.

“I could have kept on lying to her but I knew that if I was dishonest, it would all come out in the end.

“I know cheating doesn’t get you anywhere but in a bog-standard relationship I’m always looking at ways of making it exciting.

Glasgow swingers club CJ’s promises to continue parties despite COVID-19 fears

Glasgow swingers club CJ’s promises to continue parties despite COVID-19 fears

A Glasgow adult nightclub has vowed to continue its sex parties despite fears of the coronavirus.

CJ’s in Glasgow has limited its capacity to less than 100 revellers each night in an effort to combat the spread of the virus, which has so far infected 31 people in Glasgow.

The club promises ‘a fun enjoyable night out in safe and comfortable surroundings with a relaxed atmosphere’.

They say events scheduled this weekend and throughout next week will go ahead.

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And bosses have reassured regulars that measures have been put in place to reduce any potential risks, including placing hand sanitizer dispensers at different locations within the venue.

A statement on a sex site from the club’s owners reads: “CJs parties will still be going ahead and extra measures have been put in place to reduce any risks.

“Hand sanitiser dispensers have been placed on the wall at the entrance outside the cloakroom, at the top of the stairs before you enter playrooms and in the kitchen area.

“We are asking guests to please make use of these along with washing your hands before and after play.

“We will be restricting parties to less than 100 guests until further notice. Swing safe as always.”

Thailand: Nurse forced to quit her job because being too sexy

Thailand: Nurse forced to quit her job because being too sexy

A nurse was forced to resign after ‘bringing shame to her profession by wearing an ‘overly sexy uniform’ at work.

Parichat ‘Pang’ Chatsri, 26, was made to quit after a photo of her at a private hospital in Isan, Thailand, went viral on social media.

She was pictured in a tight-fitting lilac uniform with a short skirt that looked purpose-built to show off her slim figure.

The uniform was far from outrageous by western standards, but it was regarded as provocative in Thailand.

Critics accused Ms Chatsri of dressing inappropriately and disrespecting the nursing profession.

The photograph went viral after it was shared on the social media page of a group called the Thai Nurse Lovers Association.

Ms Chatsri has now issued a public apology.

‘I explained to the board at the hospital but they have high regards for the hospital’s image,’ she explained.

‘I understood them, and I didn’t want it to be a big deal. So I took responsibility by resigning.

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‘I’d like to apologise to the Thailand Nursing and Midwifery Council and the hospital. I don’t want the public to judge all nurses based on my image.’

By resigning, Ms Chatsri said she felt it was her responsibility to protect the reputation of both the hospital and the profession.

She added: ‘I do not want trouble. It happened and I was responsible. I need to improve myself.’

Becoming a swinger: one swinger’s story

Becoming a swinger: one swinger’s story

My husband and I used to play a game of naming movie stars we would like to sleep with. Eventually, that game transformed to discussing people we know who we’d like to sleep with. Although we didn’t start giving each other permission to actually have sex with these people, the idea was planted.

I didn’t start my marriage as a swinger. I was married for more than a decade before we first couple swapped.

The next couple of years were spent with things I’d call testers. At parties we played the game, “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours.” From there we started experiencing sex with someone watching. All these things may seem tame to most, but to us it was the beginning of a lifestyle we didn’t know we wanted.

We became members of a webcam site called anywebcam. The site allowed us to be voyeurs, which in turn led to us having sex on the webcam. We spent time chatting with other couples and eventually decided to meet a group of people from the website. We took a trip to Tennessee to attend a party with this group, who were friends that regularly got together and played.

For this group, playtime consisted of girl-on-girl while the men watched. One couple secretly told us they were a full swap couple, but that type of play didn’t normally occur with this group.

Enter Soccer Mom; blonde, skinny, and tan; arriving with no preconceived notions. I seemed to transform the group, at least for one evening.

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The parties theme was toga. So while my husband was off with a few of the boys buying more alcohol, I was standing in a thong having people dress me in a toga. This was the beginning of loosening up the rules for everyone. The evening moved along with some kissing and a little touching. Before I knew it I was getting quite a bit of attention. Picture this: me on the couch with a man kissing my lips, kissing each of my breasts, and a female between my legs. Each would alternate positions. The guys and girls would gesture for an ok from my husband before they joined the fun. A female saw that my husband was standing alone so she offered to take care of him.

Later that night we experienced our first swap with another couple. We went back to our hotel room with the other couple. Each of us started having sex with our own spouses. Not long after the guys looked at each other for a permissive nod, then we traded. This was a thrilling experience for both of us. From that night on we knew this was something we wanted to experience again and again.

“If you follow the rules” a Swinging Relationship could be extremly for you

“If you follow the rules” a Swinging Relationship could be extremly for you

I hope everyone is on track to crushing your goals for this year! When I first heard the term “swingers,” it was on a talk show and I thought it was a crazy concept, like you might as you are reading this. However, before bashing swingers, listen to how it could benefit some of you.

Swingers are couples or singles who choose to have an open relationship, allowing their partners to have sex with other people, with their permission, of course. I began to learn why this type of relationship can work for anyone willing to follow the rules, respect one another, be honest, get tested for STDs, use protection, and be very selective in choosing partners and remaining private about such a new way of what some couples swear by, a healthy relationship

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In the swinging world, couples make their own rules around what they need within relationships and marriages and vow to abide by the boundaries set forth. Couples or singles who select this type of lifestyle seek one or many partners for the pure excitement of getting from one partner what they don’t receive from their “main partner”, the number one significant other in their life.

For instance, one partner might enjoy the way someone else can satisfy them that their long term partner cannot do for them. When two people are very secure with themselves and a lot of trust is established then both feel comfortable allowing the other to have different mates.

They can be of the same sex or different depending upon their mood for the day/night. Some couples choose to play with other couples and keep it with just them or they may branch off and find a couple mates to play with when they are feeling frisky or their husband/wife might be tired, a woman may have just had a baby and cannot have sex for at least six weeks, their partner might travel and leave their significant other feeling like they need someone to fulfill their sexual desires while they are recovering.

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Each couple chooses together what their life will look like within their relationship and plan and play accordingly. The benefits are they often times create lasing friendships with others of the opposite sex while enjoying sexual pleasures from them as well.

Things never get stale and it usually spices up the bedroom when both mates are personally with each other. Some couples enjoy watching other couples and learn to role play and seek sexual excitement from the scenerios they create with others and follow through on.

To each his own and many people find their egos get a boost, self esteem is significantly increased as well as their moods, relationships might last longer if couples feel less pressure in the bedroom, no one has any financial obligations, and for some who cannot remain faithful find ways like this to still be married and have a family but are able to see others on the side to fulfill sexual pleasures outside of a loving relationship where both people agree this is what is best for them.

I believe it is best for couples to be discreet when choosing to be a swinger and that children are never involved. If family finds out their loved ones are involved in such a different wild lifestyle it could create a lot of turmoil. I would definitely error on the side of being cautious, but if you are curious then by all means openly discuss with your partner or if you are single then why not give it a try? You might just find you like it a lot more than you thought you would.

I understand this type of bizarre lifestyle does not work for everyone, however, the ones it does work for absolutely live by it and love it. If all of the rules and boundaries are followed and everyone is happy, there really isn’t any harm in living together this way!

The Naked Cleaning Company

The Naked Cleaning Company

Most people, to give the cleaner room to work, prefer scheduling their maids to arrive while they’re away from the house. However, according to the The Naked Cleaning Company’s website, you may want to stick around when they show up.

“The Naked Cleaning Company is a domestic cleaning service provider with body-positive beliefs. We are a professional company with a team of driven and sophisticated individuals, offering high quality, professional service. Our company ethos is to have the best possible discreet service available for busy professionals throughout the UK.”

“We offer various cleaning services from lingerie, topless to fully naked cleaners. There is a cleaner for everyone and we operate seven days a week.”

In an recent interview with the MercuryPressNikki Belton (the founder of NCC) went into detail about her new company:

“I’ve had a normal cleaning business for five years and charge £16.50 per hour for that, so I think the naked cleaning will be a lot more profitable. So far we’ve had thousands of people contacting us who are interested – but some people don’t actually think it’s real because it’s so unheard of.”

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“Our cleaners will carry out tasks such as vacuuming, dusting and wiping surfaces, but with a twist. The service costs £75 per hour for topless and lingerie, and £95 per hour for fully naked cleaning.”

“Others say that they wouldn’t expect someone to actually run with the idea, but I don’t really care what people think.”

“At the end of the day, we’re a business and there’s nothing sexual about it – it’s more of an individual mindset where people can appreciate the male and female body while respecting the nature of our company. Our cleaners aren’t sex objects, they’re there to do a job.

I’d like to encourage our employees to build their confidence and be proud of their bodies by working with us.”

“In the future, we want to branch out internationally and maybe even employ some naked butlers too.”