Getting involved in the lifestyle can stir up a wide range of emotions, and if these aren’t explored and addressed, the experience can quickly become overwhelming.
One of the most common—and often unsettling—emotions newcomers face is jealousy. Jealousy holds a curious role in society: sometimes it’s seen as a sign of passion, and other times it’s viewed as toxic.
Popular culture often portrays jealousy as proof of true love—just think about those romantic comedies where the main character realizes how much they care only when someone else starts pursuing their crush. In many ways, society has conditioned us to expect jealousy in committed relationships. If you’re not at least a little jealous, people may even question how deeply you care.
But we see it differently. Why should a negative emotion like jealousy be considered proof of love? Isn’t it healthier—and far more fulfilling—to show love through encouragement, trust, and genuine happiness for your partner’s joy?
Life is too short to spend it consumed by jealousy. We believe that time is much better spent building each other up and walking our shared journey with honesty and support.
While jealousy is a natural human emotion, it’s something we should aim to understand and grow beyond, just like frustration, envy, or resentment. It’s a common emotional hurdle for those new to the lifestyle, but it can be managed.
That said, trying to move past jealousy doesn’t mean it disappears immediately.
Most people will encounter it in some form. It’s not inherently bad, and suppressing it doesn’t help. What matters is being honest with yourself about what you’re feeling. Jealousy looks different for everyone.
For some, it may be triggered by affectionate nicknames; for others, it might be physical intimacy like a kiss or touch. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to emotions.
The key is to identify, explore, and talk about these feelings so you can grow through them.
There will be times when you feel uncertain or vulnerable, and those moments can make jealousy flare up. The first, and most important, step is to recognize those feelings for what they are.
That simple act reminds us that we’re human and that emotions—especially messy ones—are completely normal. No one is wrong for feeling jealous.
It’s human nature. And you’re certainly not alone—most people in the lifestyle have been there too.
Being part of the lifestyle doesn’t mean becoming immune to difficult emotions. It doesn’t magically turn you into someone who never feels threatened or insecure.
But the good news is that these emotions can be managed, allowing you to move forward with more awareness and happiness.
When jealousy arises, pause and reflect on what’s behind it. It’s not always obvious.
Strong feelings like jealousy can mask deeper concerns, and it may take time and space to understand what’s really going on. Is this a new emotion for you, or has it been simmering for a while?
Was there a specific event that triggered it? Is there anything your partner—or you—can do to help ease the tension and rebuild a sense of trust and connection?
Taking a step back to analyze the situation gives you clarity.
Once you’ve pinpointed what’s bothering you, it becomes a learning opportunity. For example, maybe watching your partner get ready for a date with someone else sparked envy—not because you don’t want them to have fun, but because you miss the excitement of getting ready for something special yourself.
That realization could be your cue to plan your own adventure. Or maybe hearing your partner praise someone else made you feel invisible—maybe what you really need is to feel seen and appreciated again.
One effective way to manage jealousy is to limit the influence of people who reinforce negative mindsets.
If someone constantly insists that jealousy equals love, or criticizes your emotional growth, it may be time to create distance.
Surrounding yourself with supportive, open-minded people helps you thrive in the lifestyle with less judgment and more encouragement.
What is Compersion?
While jealousy is often the first emotion people associate with swinging, there’s another, much less talked-about feeling: compersion.
Compersion is essentially the joy you feel when your partner experiences happiness, even when you’re not the source of it. It’s a form of emotional empathy—feeling good simply because someone you love is having a good time.
Think of it like discovering a delicious new treat. If you truly enjoy it, you might want to share it with your partner, not out of obligation, but because their enjoyment enhances your own.
You’re not resentful that they get to enjoy your favorite snack—you feel more joy knowing they’re delighted too. That’s compersion.
Or picture throwing a surprise birthday party for your partner.
It’s their moment, but watching their joy fills you with happiness. You’re not jealous of their attention—you’re proud and thrilled that they’re so excited. That’s what compersion feels like.
You can even experience it in everyday moments. Imagine getting a couple’s massage at a spa. You might feel a little more relaxed and content just knowing your partner is also enjoying the moment. That shared joy—that warm connection—is another form of compersion.
Many people enter the lifestyle unaware of compersion, but once they encounter it, it often becomes one of the most fulfilling parts of the experience. Instead of feeling threatened by a partner’s pleasure, they feel uplifted.
That excitement can even add fuel to their own relationship, enhancing their emotional and physical connection.
But like all emotions, compersion can’t be forced.
You can’t just decide to feel it, especially if you’re someone who regularly struggles with jealousy. It takes emotional work, self-awareness, and honest communication to get there.
And if you don’t feel it right away—or ever—that’s okay. It doesn’t make you a bad partner or mean the lifestyle isn’t for you. Still, for many, compersion becomes a powerful and affirming part of their journey.
Group sex may be an exciting addition to your sex life and especially so if you and/or your partner are into the unconventional and kinky. Group sex may feature in your lifestyle and sexual preferences or may just be an item you eager to cross off that long bucket list. Either way, a good start to making a reality of it is in finding participants; consenting adults, willing to come out and play.
Finding group sex participants may be particularly challenging, especially in a rigidly conservative society that unanimously disapproves such indulgences, looking upon them with evident frowning. The larger community may consider individuals that associate with this practice moral degenerates, who are left social pariahs that everyone is eager to give a wide berth. However, there are several safe and orthodox approaches and tried alternatives to finding these partners as highlighted.
Look to a friend
Through social interaction, you and/or your partner may notice persons within your circle of friends with an adventurous spirit and a sense of wonder regarding matters sexual. This would definitely be the first person(s) to pitch the idea of group sex to. It makes it even more interesting if you have an attraction for this person and a gush of sexual energy, characterized mostly by uninhibited heavy flirtation defines your encounters.
A group sex experience may change the dynamics of your friendship. It is important to establish ground rules and discuss possible eventualities, as well as address all concerns raised before diving in.
Online platforms
One of the most common places to find individuals with similar interests is Swinglifestyle, it is the biggest site for group sex and is free. You want to avoid personal ads on online platforms such as Plenty of Fish or on Craigslist because it is not private. SwingersTaboo gives you a great selection to choose from and you can look through the profiles, apply filter techniques and find exactly what you are looking for.
It is important to stick with a safe site like Swinglifestyle, as there are many psychos and criminals trawling online. As a precaution, meet this individual in a public place and share a moment as you get to know each other before actually inviting them into your bedroom for a group sex session.
Scout the options together
Finding a person for your group sex plans may be as easy as jointly picking someone. It could be that attractive young man behind the bar in your favorite pub, or the beautiful woman who has been stealing glances your way all night. You and your partner may consciously look around, discuss possible options, eventually make a go for it, and approach the person together.
Swinger clubs
Swinger and other such clubs are always a great place to add to the numbers for your group sex team. The upside to this approach lies in the fact that you can expect no judgment as the community consists of similar-minded individuals. One-on-one interactions also help create a connection before moving to having a group sex encounter.
Group sex, in its many variations is a practice that is more common than many would care to admit. These highlights outline safe ways to meet and partner with persons that share this interest.
Just open a cam site, do a search on the internet or simply browse a couple of free social networks and you will notice how there is a series of open thighs, widened asses and wide open mouths in which, I would say at will, you can stick whatever you want.
One thing has become rare, both in social women and in those you meet every day and that is the ability to charm and make you melt with gestures that are not the classic imitation of the “MistyBitch” of the hard movies of the 80s.
And yet there are those who still resist and make charm their weapon of mass destruction
The hungry and the tasters
If you have already reached this point in the reading we have skimmed the classic hungry and desperate subject who, due to his poor ability, needs to eat anything and needs a direct and explicit message.
People who if there is no pussy pussy, ass ass, tits tits in the first 4 seconds after a click, are not able to read or understand ^^
I often like to make the example that the hungry and poor man (in spirit in this case) needs a clear and explicit photo of what he has to eat. A plate of half a kilo of t-bone, a box of mixed fried food, 2 tons of hamburgers.
He doesn’t care if the plate is plastic, if the cutlery is not exactly clean, if instead of napkins there is a roll of toilet paper. He is hungry and has to eat.
The most refined people, those who have the possibility to choose (for content creators, try to understand why a high number of followers often does not correspond to adequate earnings) instead do not try to feed themselves, because they can eat when and where they want, but they are looking for sensations and the small details make the total difference.
Now, it’s not that the most refined will never eat even a dish of substandard food in the most sordid of restaurants, but it’s definitely not their first choice.
Teasing
It is a term that can be translated as “Provoke” and that is the typically feminine ability to conquer one’s prey without necessarily having to show cleavage or gestures in close-up that are so direct that they end up being extremely vulgar (for the most refined palates).
That look, that way of touching her hair, that smile and that funny expression.
But also the way she crosses her legs, adjusts her stockings or shoes or straightens her dress.
Knowing how to move slowly, letting endless seconds pass while waiting for something else to crave.
A slow, but continuous, eating with the eyes of a hidden dish that makes you inebriated just by looking at the plating and that promises you, and you know it keeps, emotions that an oily pizza by the slice cannot give you.
The whole show before getting to the point…
Teasing is not something that is an end in itself or that we have a limit to where we can push ourselves.
Once the man is cooked to perfection, you can decide whether to leave him there begging for more or simply indulge him, continuing on a path that secretly has very little to remove desire and transform it into longing passion.
Teasing is that tool that puts a woman on a pedestal.
They all have tits, ass and pussy and taking a man to bed is never a particularly complicated thing.
The difficult thing is to make him a slave to your femininity, annihilate him in his desire and in being, not just feeling, truly special.
Write in the comments what you think and if you also love tasting instead of consuming in a fast food restaurant.
Last spring my husband and I were looking for an adults-only vacation to celebrate our tenth anniversary. I came across a “clothing optional lifestyle takeover cruise.” The materials talked about dance parties, clothing-optional areas, and playrooms, including a dungeon. We assumed “lifestyle” meant BDSM. It was only after we’d booked the trip that we realized it meant swingers. We figured we could still go, even though we didn’t plan to participate.
Leading up to the cruise, though, we got to know some of the other couples online and began to change our minds. It started with talk of me being interested in playing with other women and evolved into “Let’s just go for it and enjoy all this cruise has to offer.”
We really didn’t know what to expect when we got there, and were definitely surprised. Some people were completely nude, some just topless, some in tiny outfits, and some fully clothed. We kept our swimsuits on. No one seemed to mind, or even notice, what anyone else was or wasn’t wearing.
The first evening there was a toga/gods/goddesses party. My husband dressed as a Roman gladiator and I made a toga out of a sheer purple fabric. We danced with a couple we’d chatted with online, who were in white togas. We didn’t get naked, but there was some flashing and roaming hands. My husband and I are “full swap,” which means that we are okay with penetrative sex with other people, but their rules were stricter than ours.. They do not kiss or have penetrative sex with others.
After the dance club closed, we all went to the 24-hour outdoor play area. There were beds spaced about every six feet with small tables between them. We all went to one bed and started by getting undressed and making out with our own partners. Soon I felt the woman’s hand caressing my breast as I was kissing my husband. Then her husband, while still kissing her, started to finger me.
At one point my husband went to the restroom. While he was gone, the other guy went down on his wife while I kissed her and played with her breasts. Then we shifted and I went down on him while she went down on me. When my husband came back, he watched for a minute, then joined us.
The atmosphere of the cruise made us more open to trying new things.
After a little while, I started giving my husband head while the other couple had sex. He’d had a lot to drink and to his dismay wasn’t getting hard. We tried a couple times, but it wasn’t going to happen. We played a little while the other couple finished up, and then we all went to the hot tubs.
The atmosphere of the cruise made us more open to trying new things. Throughout the week, we had two more play sessions with other couples, including a six-way group session with the same couple from the first night.
There has to be some physical attraction when we decide who to play with, but the connection we form with a couple is the bigger factor. We want to play with people who are fun and stable in their relationship. We have a very low tolerance for drama. Since we play only as a couple, there has to be a four-way match in terms of attraction.
One day we were talking to a couple and the woman stripped down to nothing but a smile and just kept on chatting. This was very awkward for us, but we tried not to let it show. Ten minutes later, her husband stripped down too. He suggested that we do the same, but we declined. He asked us about making a playdate, and I told him that I didn’t think we had the four-way match we needed for us to be comfortable. For the rest of the week she was cordial when we’d run into them, but he wouldn’t even say hello to us. I felt bad for possibly leading him on. Unfortunately, that’s the way it goes sometimes.
Before the trip, I thought swingers were people who would have sex with any random person. But those we’ve met want the same thing that we want: friendship with like-minded couples, and if we happen to have fun in sexual ways from time to time, that’s a bonus.
Now we play with others about once a month. Unfortunately, there is not a single lifestyle club in the entire state where we live. We play only as a couple and only together in the same room. We like to be within reach so we can play and talk to each other at the same time. It’s about group play, not just swapping partners.
Condoms are a must. We both have veto power, meaning that if there is a man I want to play with, my hubby can say no at any time for any reason and it will not happen, whether he’s not comfortable with the guy or isn’t interested in playing with his wife. We rarely play at our house, but if we do it is only with a couple we know really well, and never in our bed—that is only for us.
We talk to several couples we met on the cruise on a weekly basis. One we’ve become really good friends with, and we get together often with our kids. We do the same things other families do but sometimes, after the kids are in bed, we lock the door and get naked. Sometimes we start with a dinner date and drinks, or just hang out with the kids until they’re all asleep. We might play a game like sexy dice or watch a movie with sexual undertones.
We haven’t had a successful session yet with another couple where we both had penetrative sex. My husband overthinks it and can’t maintain an erection. We have talked to several other men in the lifestyle and they all said that it is very common in the beginning, especially if you’ve been exclusively with your partner for a long time.
Neither of us have any romantic feelings for our play partners at all, but we do see them as friends. There are definitely people we are attracted to, both mentally and physically, but romance and love are just for us.
Other than the couple that we said no to on the cruise, no one has ever made us uncomfortable. We have been asked to do things that we have rules against. For example, there is a couple who generally play separately, but we play only as a couple. We’ve made this clear to them. We still talk to them and joke around; we just know that we won’t be play partners and that’s okay.
Swinging has helped our sex life, because after a night of playing with others we always come back and talk about the experience and have really hot sex with each other during the conversation. I don’t know if we will stay in the lifestyle forever, but we are definitely having fun for now.
In recent years, erotic photography has gone from being the center of eroticism to being something for the few, almost disappearing from radars and internet searches.
Few know or conceive, but there is a strong difference between sensual and erotic photography. While the first we can define as alluring, something that makes you want to be conquered, the second leaves the viewer to imagine what he could do with that body, flying mainly on fantasy.
But if you love taking erotic photos, what are the poses that will highlight your femininity the most, will create desire and, let’s not lie, help hide those flaws that we all have? Here are the 10 best poses to make every man who watches your content melt.
1 – Open Legs
Let’s point out straight away that we are talking about erotic photography. Legs open does not mean wide open with the ankles behind the ears.
It is a position of invitation and availability that is transmitted to the spectator and which brings together the elements of provocation and an irresistible appeal towards any man with sufficient visual capabilities.
2 – Crossed Legs
If having your legs slightly open is a sexual appeal, having your legs crossed is no less so. In this way your legs are put on display which transmit the desire to touch and caress them.
You will also drive all foot lovers crazy. It is a photo that allows you to better set the position of the rest of the body and use it to send further messages and characterize the photo.
A drink, some glasses, smoking (it’s bad for you, avoid), a flower or even a slice of pizza. Try different ones.
3 – Scissor Legs
This pose creates a triangle inside your legs and is called scissor pose because your legs do not have to be aligned.
One leg must be completely, or almost completely, extended and the other must be more curled up. In the photograph it firms the buttock, highlighting it and noticeably lengthens the body.
Try this position in different situations and lights to get the effect you want.
4 – Waterfalling
It is a very difficult type of photo to take, although it may seem the opposite, and requires the ability to maintain the position while appearing absolutely relaxed.
However, the result will be amazing and will highlight the entire expressiveness of the body.
The lingerie, with an elegant dressing gown, with a teddy bear in your arms or whatever. An intriguing, satisfied, transgressive or innocent gaze.
This pose is one of those that, like few others, can communicate everything you want.
5 – The “h” letter
In this pose the legs should take on what looks to all intents and purposes like a letter “h”.
One leg extended and the other bent forward.
The advantage of this pose is that it will highlight your entire profile, slimming it down and making it passionately irresistible.
6 – Teasing
In many photos and poses, only the body often lets the body speak. In the game of provocation, however, this is just an outline behind a look that must say everything.
The message that must be conveyed is “but what would you do to a beautiful girl like me?” or a simpler “I’m waiting for you”.
7 – Letter “M”
It is a position apparently similar to that of open legs. But in this case the knees must be higher than the pelvis.
This position lengthens the legs, stretches them and makes the torso always proportionate to the body of the image.
8 – The Arch
This is “the” position in which the body arches and leans on something to highlight its shape and make the spectator imagine being able to almost touch it entirely.
For the image to work you have to arch your back and bring your ass out a little further, in order to convey the idea of being ready and available.
9 – The B-Side
I would have liked to call this pose something more artistic, but basically we are talking about the simplest and most widespread pose found on social media.
It’s about showing off your back side, arching your back slightly, standing on tiptoe a bit to lengthen and relax your legs (it also hardens the buttock) and turning towards the camera with a determined look.
10 – Hungry Girl
Nothing stimulates the male erotic fantasy more than a hungry woman slowly walking towards him to do what she has decided (and which he won’t mind at all).
Expressiveness is very important, with eyes and mouth half-closed, rigid shoulders and a pose that tells the story of the movement.
