The world of swinging has long lived under a fog of stereotypes. For years, it has been labelled as a playground for “degenerates” and “perverts” (on a good day), and only recently has it started to break free from that stigma. There are still plenty of misconceptions hanging around.
For people who have been part of the lifestyle for years, these myths may sound obvious. But understanding how swingers are perceived—rather than swinging itself—is important, especially for those still stuck in outdated assumptions.
So, in an attempt to demystify this world without taking anything for granted, here are the most common beliefs about swingers that are completely false.
1. They are all old and creepy
This stereotype might have been somewhat accurate decades ago, when private clubs were mostly attended by an older crowd, for cultural and practical reasons.
Today the scene looks very different. The internet has opened the door to younger generations, who find the lifestyle far more accessible and less mysterious.
It’s now common to find young couples at clubs and even events with strict age limits. A quick look at community listings makes it clear: the image of “old, creepy swingers” doesn’t match reality anymore.
2. All swingers do full swap
Not true. Every couple sets their own rules.
Some enjoy full swap, with complete partner exchange.
Others prefer soft swap, allowing only certain interactions.
Others don’t want physical contact at all, but still enjoy the shared erotic atmosphere.
For many, erotic charge comes from being in the same room, not necessarily touching each other. And honestly, it’s not that different from certain teenage experiments many people had back in the day.
3. Only women are bi-curious
Girl-on-girl interactions are common and, at times, almost expected. But that doesn’t mean men don’t explore their own sexual curiosity.
It doesn’t imply that attending a party means getting hit on by another guy—male bi-curiosity tends to happen discreetly—but the level of openness is higher than people think.
Full bi couples are increasingly common, and if one wants to experiment, the environment is usually supportive, not judgmental.
4. Single women don’t exist in the lifestyle
Absolutely false. There are plenty of single women in clubs and online communities.
Often called “unicorns,” they are very real—and numerous. Some play with couples, some with singles, some with multiple partners at once.
They’re simply looking for a space where they can explore sexuality without judgment. Just like everyone else.
5. Swingers don’t care about STDs
It’s actually the opposite. Safe sex is a core principle of swinger culture, and hygiene is taken seriously.
Clubs provide free condoms everywhere.
Many people request recent STI test results before meeting.
A lot of swingers get tested regularly for their own safety and their partners’.
Swingers are often more cautious about sexual health than people having casual sex outside the lifestyle.
6. Swinging destroys relationships
It can, yes—if the relationship is already falling apart. Just like having a child, buying a house, or going on vacation can highlight cracks that were already there.
Swinging is not therapy, and it doesn’t “fix” couples. It’s a different way of living sexuality that works only for people with compatibility, communication, and trust.
Some couples find it enriching. Others find it destabilizing. Just like any major relational shift.
7. Swingers don’t care who they have sex with
Not true at all. Swinger couples tend to be incredibly selective.
Personality, chemistry, and confidence matter as much as physical attraction. Many encounters begin with drinks, dinner, and conversation.
That’s why showing up online with nothing but a nude picture, assuming “they just want sex,” is the fastest way to end up ignored.
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8. Women are dragged into swinging by their husbands
It happens, but such couples rarely last.
In the lifestyle, women are often the driving force:
They decide if and when something happens
They receive most of the attention
They enjoy a sexually empowered environment
If someone ends up having a bad experience, ironically, it’s usually the man.
Interviews with lifestyle couples consistently show that female consent is central, not optional.
9. Swingers are perverts
Depends on what “pervert” means. Until not long ago, homosexuality was labelled as perversion too.
People in the lifestyle enjoy fantasies and kink—but in a way that is consensual, mindful, and healthy.
Freud described “perversion” as an uninhibited drive toward pleasure, not a moral failure. Modern sexologists echo that sentiment: most swinger couples operate in harmony, guided by playfulness, fun, and mutual respect.
10. Swingers have open relationships
Not usually. Swinging is shared, not secret.
It’s something couples do together, with boundaries they both agree on. It’s not about deception or parallel relationships.
Swinger couples feel jealousy and betrayal just like anyone else. Anything that isn’t shared or consented to is considered cheating—exactly as in traditional relationships.
CONCLUSION
The swinger world isn’t populated by reckless people or thrill-seeking predators. It’s made up of individuals and couples who navigate sexuality in a consensual, respectful, and often highly self-aware manner.
If there’s one consistent thread that ties everything together, it’s this:
Many men secretly nurture a fantasy they rarely confess to their partner: watching her become the center of attention, dominated, for other confident, sexually assertive men.
Of course, not every man shares this fantasy, but surveys and personal stories show it’s more common than most imagine. And it’s important to underline that fantasy doesn’t always mean a desire to make it real. Some scenarios are thrilling precisely because they stay in the imagination.
Where the Fantasy Comes From
This type of fantasy often develops in men over 40. They imagine their partner being deeply desired, admired, and fully pleased by others while they watch, feeling a mix of excitement, surprise, and pride. The scene isn’t about betrayal — it’s about seeing their partner radiant with pleasure and feeling a unique emotional bond through that experience.
Is It a Problem?
No. Having sexual fantasies — even intense ones — is normal and healthy. A fantasy is not an illness, nor is it automatically something you must do. The key is always mutual respect and clear communication.
If a couple chooses to explore this kind of play, they should discuss boundaries first: what is comfortable, what is off-limits, and what signals to use if either partner feels uneasy. Consent and safety are essential.
Why Some Couples Explore It
For some men, bringing this fantasy to life is about deepening trust and intimacy. By creating unforgettable, erotic experiences for their partner, they prove that their bond can withstand new dynamics and even become stronger.
Open-minded couples often report that exploring fantasies together can:
Increase sexual connection and excitement
Build trust and resilience against jealousy and outside problems
Turn fantasies into shared adventures rather than private secrets
Some studies even suggest that couples who openly communicate and negotiate non-monogamous experiences have lower separation rates than those who keep their desires hidden.
Why It’s Not for Everyone
It’s crucial not to pressure a partner. What excites one person might be uncomfortable or hurtful to another. Turning a private fantasy into a shared experience requires emotional preparation, strong trust, and the ability to handle jealousy.
Many couples start small:
Role-play the scenario at home
Talk openly about what each partner enjoys or fears
Experiment with soft forms of non-monogamy (like meeting other couples or a threesome) before considering more intense situations
If at any point one partner feels unsafe or unhappy, everything should stop immediately.
Real-World Experiences
Couples who have explored this fantasy often say it was exciting and memorable. Still, many choose not to repeat it quickly — not because it went badly, but because the experience was emotionally and physically intense. Sometimes, the memory alone remains powerful and fulfilling.
Final Thoughts
Every couple is unique. Some enjoy keeping fantasies private, while others love turning them into reality. The key is mutual respect, consent, and communication.
If this fantasy intrigues you and your partner, start by talking openly — no pressure, no shame. And remember: the healthiest sexuality is one built on trust, shared pleasure, and emotional safety.
If you are planning to make to another level in relationships with your girlfriend, you have to cunnilingue her. If you want to give your wife some pleasure, cuni is the best option before sex. If your wife is pregnant and wants sex, cunnilingue her.
2. The clitoris is framed by the prepuce which converges towards the bottom of the clitoris and then changes into labia minora. This junction is the most sensitive area in terms of sexual excitement.
3. The female’s clitoris itself is an analogue of the male’s penis. The body of clitoris is located under skin and goes up inside. And the glans of clitoris is an analogue of male’s glans penis.
Let’s remember:
– Female’s labia minora and clitoris is an extremely sensitive area. You can touch it only with your tongue and lips. Teeth – never ever! – Do not go deep into the vagina with your tongue (it is no great pleasure)! – And into the anus either (not all women like it).
Well, here are 10 tips for proper cunnilingus proficiency techniques:
1. Shave yourself. For males.
No moustache, beard or stubble. Of course, over time, a woman may get used to hairs on your face. But even in this case, the moments when stubble touches girl’s vulvar lips will not be pleasant.
2. Prelude. “A woman falls in love with her ears”. The first caress.
Start with nice words telling that you have not seen each other for a while, that all day long you have dreamt about your one and only, most beautiful, most desired woman in the world. Whisper these words in her ears along with licking an auricle, kiss her in her neck. Within 2-3 minutes, your girlfriend will get aroused.
And you should immediately start going down. Kiss and caress the girl’s breast. While you are caressing one breast and a nipple with your lips, do not forget about the other breast and slowly finger over the nipple of the other breast. Keep on doing it until the girl opens her legs a bit.
3. Let’s move on to the belly.
While moving down the belly, kiss it and lick with your tongue all over. At the same time, remove girl’s panties, if she has not done it yet. Spread her legs a little to the sides, move your hands with stroking movements along the girl’s legs – first, stroke one leg, then another one: from the hip along the inner surface to the toes and back. Caress her this way until the woman bends her legs in knees and opens them a bit more, thereby showing the man that she has aroused enough.
4. Let’s start the cuni.
Warning: your tongue must always be soft and relaxed!
Run your tongue over outer vulvar lips all round. 1-2 times.
Open outer vulvar lips with your hands. Quite often, women open them by themselves, instinctively showing where they should be caressed.
A good option is to lift woman’s legs in a bent position, lean on her hips with your wrists and open her vulvar lips with your fingers. One more option is to take woman’s hands and put them on popliteal regions, making her support her legs herself. The third option – the girl sits in a deep armchair and puts her legs on the armrests. But the third option may be uncomfortable because of the bending spine. But when a woman reaches orgasm, she needs to lean forward, which is very uncomfortable in the armchair. That is why it is better to cunnilingue in a back lying position. You can even put a small pillow under the low back.
5. Cunnilingus itself.
Run your tongue along inner vulvar lips moving to the clitoris. Also, all round the vagina. Slowly. Moving one side and another. There should be a lot of saliva in your mouth. Saliva lubricates the girl’s vulvar lips and clitoris.
Let’s move on to the clitoris. By that time, it is already erect enough. And, like the man’s penis, the woman’s clitoris becomes a bit hard. Run with your tongue up and down along the clitoris gently and slowly. Several times.
Then, left and right. Also several times. Do not press with your tongue during the cuni. Just run with it along, excite by your touches.
6. Pull your lips a bit forward, seize the clitoris and surrounding tissues with them.
Slightly, rather imperceptibly, suck in. And gently pull the tissues taken into your mouth. Move your head back and forth, back and forth. Stop for 2-3 seconds. Stroke the inner surface of the girl’s hips. Run your hand around the woman’s perineum. The thing is that when pulling her perineum, a bit, her movements also initiate movements of the clitoris. This way, the excitement enhances slightly, and a variety is introduced to the cuni technique. You can also do several times as follows: put your palms on either side of outer vulvar lips and hurl your arms together slightly, evaginating the woman’s perineum.
7. Once again, open outer vulvar lips with your hands.
Run slowly with your soft tongue along the inner vulvar lips and the clitoris in various direction. 3-4 times.
Once again, embrace the clitoris with your lips. This time, you can embrace it lengthwise. That is to say, position yourself on the side of the woman a little, and your lips will be parallel with the woman’s vulvar lips.
Having embraced the clitoris with your lips, also make some slight movements sideways. But do not go too far and do not be too hard. And slightly-slightly suck in. Do like this 5-6 times.
8. The pause again.
Stroke the hips. You can insert your finger in her vagina and stimulate the G-point a bit – she will reach the orgasm faster and it will be more impassioned.
9. Seize widely the girl’s outer vulvar lips with your lips.
Take them completely into your mouth – from the bottom to the top, suck in. And pull them a bit, moving your head up and down, sideways. At this stage of cuni, this technique itself can make the girl reach the orgasm fast. When the girl starts breathing at a rhythmical pace, moan and move her hips along with the rhythm of movements done by your head, you may go on and drive her to the orgasm which will be very impassioned. Or you may just stop, make a pause for 2-3 seconds, stroke around her perineum with your palms and continue.
10. Open labia majora with your hands a bit harder than usually.
And start gently and softly lick with your tongue in the area where the clitoris changes into labia minora. The rhythm of your tongue’s movements has to coincide with the rhythm of the girl’s breathing. Breathing becomes more frequent – and we make the tongue’s movements more frequent also. Such a slight clitoral excitement usually elevates the girl’s level of sexual excitement even more, while the orgasm will be completely different, unlike the vaginal one.
The second option is to repeat the sucking movements of the tongue in the clitoris area. Also, in a rhythmical pace, in sync with the woman’s breathing, in sync with her moans and movements with hips.
In general, the last 5 steps-tips may be combined in your technique, focusing on one or the other one.
And some more.
The proper cuni technique is, first of all, love and trust. If the girl does not trust you, if she is shy or you are not close enough yet, do not force the events. Otherwise, the poorly performed cuni will later turn into a long-term unwillingness of the girl to have such intimacies. Catch your woman’s behavior during the cuni. What she likes more, what drives her and what she escapes from. Therefore, you can adapt to her individual features.
When should cuni be finished?
As soon as the waves of orgasm calm down, stop moving with your tongue, but keep your lips on the girl’s labia minora and clitoris. Do not move with your head.
Usually, the girl herself will call you, slightly pulling your head towards her with her hands, in order to thank you for the delivered pleasure. Or gently put the girl’s legs on the bed, then put your head on the bottom of her belly and stroke her hips. In 2-3 minutes, she may get aroused again to have vaginal sex.
This is when you will also be able to reach orgasm.
Getting involved in the lifestyle can stir up a wide range of emotions, and if these aren’t explored and addressed, the experience can quickly become overwhelming.
One of the most common—and often unsettling—emotions newcomers face is jealousy. Jealousy holds a curious role in society: sometimes it’s seen as a sign of passion, and other times it’s viewed as toxic.
Popular culture often portrays jealousy as proof of true love—just think about those romantic comedies where the main character realizes how much they care only when someone else starts pursuing their crush. In many ways, society has conditioned us to expect jealousy in committed relationships. If you’re not at least a little jealous, people may even question how deeply you care.
But we see it differently. Why should a negative emotion like jealousy be considered proof of love? Isn’t it healthier—and far more fulfilling—to show love through encouragement, trust, and genuine happiness for your partner’s joy?
Life is too short to spend it consumed by jealousy. We believe that time is much better spent building each other up and walking our shared journey with honesty and support.
While jealousy is a natural human emotion, it’s something we should aim to understand and grow beyond, just like frustration, envy, or resentment. It’s a common emotional hurdle for those new to the lifestyle, but it can be managed.
That said, trying to move past jealousy doesn’t mean it disappears immediately.
Most people will encounter it in some form. It’s not inherently bad, and suppressing it doesn’t help. What matters is being honest with yourself about what you’re feeling. Jealousy looks different for everyone.
For some, it may be triggered by affectionate nicknames; for others, it might be physical intimacy like a kiss or touch. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to emotions.
The key is to identify, explore, and talk about these feelings so you can grow through them.
There will be times when you feel uncertain or vulnerable, and those moments can make jealousy flare up. The first, and most important, step is to recognize those feelings for what they are.
That simple act reminds us that we’re human and that emotions—especially messy ones—are completely normal. No one is wrong for feeling jealous.
It’s human nature. And you’re certainly not alone—most people in the lifestyle have been there too.
Being part of the lifestyle doesn’t mean becoming immune to difficult emotions. It doesn’t magically turn you into someone who never feels threatened or insecure.
But the good news is that these emotions can be managed, allowing you to move forward with more awareness and happiness.
When jealousy arises, pause and reflect on what’s behind it. It’s not always obvious.
Strong feelings like jealousy can mask deeper concerns, and it may take time and space to understand what’s really going on. Is this a new emotion for you, or has it been simmering for a while?
Was there a specific event that triggered it? Is there anything your partner—or you—can do to help ease the tension and rebuild a sense of trust and connection?
Taking a step back to analyze the situation gives you clarity.
Once you’ve pinpointed what’s bothering you, it becomes a learning opportunity. For example, maybe watching your partner get ready for a date with someone else sparked envy—not because you don’t want them to have fun, but because you miss the excitement of getting ready for something special yourself.
That realization could be your cue to plan your own adventure. Or maybe hearing your partner praise someone else made you feel invisible—maybe what you really need is to feel seen and appreciated again.
One effective way to manage jealousy is to limit the influence of people who reinforce negative mindsets.
If someone constantly insists that jealousy equals love, or criticizes your emotional growth, it may be time to create distance.
Surrounding yourself with supportive, open-minded people helps you thrive in the lifestyle with less judgment and more encouragement.
What is Compersion?
While jealousy is often the first emotion people associate with swinging, there’s another, much less talked-about feeling: compersion.
Compersion is essentially the joy you feel when your partner experiences happiness, even when you’re not the source of it. It’s a form of emotional empathy—feeling good simply because someone you love is having a good time.
Think of it like discovering a delicious new treat. If you truly enjoy it, you might want to share it with your partner, not out of obligation, but because their enjoyment enhances your own.
You’re not resentful that they get to enjoy your favorite snack—you feel more joy knowing they’re delighted too. That’s compersion.
Or picture throwing a surprise birthday party for your partner.
It’s their moment, but watching their joy fills you with happiness. You’re not jealous of their attention—you’re proud and thrilled that they’re so excited. That’s what compersion feels like.
You can even experience it in everyday moments. Imagine getting a couple’s massage at a spa. You might feel a little more relaxed and content just knowing your partner is also enjoying the moment. That shared joy—that warm connection—is another form of compersion.
Many people enter the lifestyle unaware of compersion, but once they encounter it, it often becomes one of the most fulfilling parts of the experience. Instead of feeling threatened by a partner’s pleasure, they feel uplifted.
That excitement can even add fuel to their own relationship, enhancing their emotional and physical connection.
But like all emotions, compersion can’t be forced.
You can’t just decide to feel it, especially if you’re someone who regularly struggles with jealousy. It takes emotional work, self-awareness, and honest communication to get there.
And if you don’t feel it right away—or ever—that’s okay. It doesn’t make you a bad partner or mean the lifestyle isn’t for you. Still, for many, compersion becomes a powerful and affirming part of their journey.
Group sex may be an exciting addition to your sex life and especially so if you and/or your partner are into the unconventional and kinky. Group sex may feature in your lifestyle and sexual preferences or may just be an item you eager to cross off that long bucket list. Either way, a good start to making a reality of it is in finding participants; consenting adults, willing to come out and play.
Finding group sex participants may be particularly challenging, especially in a rigidly conservative society that unanimously disapproves such indulgences, looking upon them with evident frowning. The larger community may consider individuals that associate with this practice moral degenerates, who are left social pariahs that everyone is eager to give a wide berth. However, there are several safe and orthodox approaches and tried alternatives to finding these partners as highlighted.
Look to a friend
Through social interaction, you and/or your partner may notice persons within your circle of friends with an adventurous spirit and a sense of wonder regarding matters sexual. This would definitely be the first person(s) to pitch the idea of group sex to. It makes it even more interesting if you have an attraction for this person and a gush of sexual energy, characterized mostly by uninhibited heavy flirtation defines your encounters.
A group sex experience may change the dynamics of your friendship. It is important to establish ground rules and discuss possible eventualities, as well as address all concerns raised before diving in.
Online platforms
One of the most common places to find individuals with similar interests is Swinglifestyle, it is the biggest site for group sex and is free. You want to avoid personal ads on online platforms such as Plenty of Fish or on Craigslist because it is not private. SwingersTaboo gives you a great selection to choose from and you can look through the profiles, apply filter techniques and find exactly what you are looking for.
It is important to stick with a safe site like Swinglifestyle, as there are many psychos and criminals trawling online. As a precaution, meet this individual in a public place and share a moment as you get to know each other before actually inviting them into your bedroom for a group sex session.
Scout the options together
Finding a person for your group sex plans may be as easy as jointly picking someone. It could be that attractive young man behind the bar in your favorite pub, or the beautiful woman who has been stealing glances your way all night. You and your partner may consciously look around, discuss possible options, eventually make a go for it, and approach the person together.
Swinger clubs
Swinger and other such clubs are always a great place to add to the numbers for your group sex team. The upside to this approach lies in the fact that you can expect no judgment as the community consists of similar-minded individuals. One-on-one interactions also help create a connection before moving to having a group sex encounter.
Group sex, in its many variations is a practice that is more common than many would care to admit. These highlights outline safe ways to meet and partner with persons that share this interest.
Just open a cam site, do a search on the internet or simply browse a couple of free social networks and you will notice how there is a series of open thighs, widened asses and wide open mouths in which, I would say at will, you can stick whatever you want.
One thing has become rare, both in social women and in those you meet every day and that is the ability to charm and make you melt with gestures that are not the classic imitation of the “MistyBitch” of the hard movies of the 80s.
And yet there are those who still resist and make charm their weapon of mass destruction
The hungry and the tasters
If you have already reached this point in the reading we have skimmed the classic hungry and desperate subject who, due to his poor ability, needs to eat anything and needs a direct and explicit message.
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I often like to make the example that the hungry and poor man (in spirit in this case) needs a clear and explicit photo of what he has to eat. A plate of half a kilo of t-bone, a box of mixed fried food, 2 tons of hamburgers.
He doesn’t care if the plate is plastic, if the cutlery is not exactly clean, if instead of napkins there is a roll of toilet paper. He is hungry and has to eat.
The most refined people, those who have the possibility to choose (for content creators, try to understand why a high number of followers often does not correspond to adequate earnings) instead do not try to feed themselves, because they can eat when and where they want, but they are looking for sensations and the small details make the total difference.
Now, it’s not that the most refined will never eat even a dish of substandard food in the most sordid of restaurants, but it’s definitely not their first choice.
Teasing
It is a term that can be translated as “Provoke” and that is the typically feminine ability to conquer one’s prey without necessarily having to show cleavage or gestures in close-up that are so direct that they end up being extremely vulgar (for the most refined palates).
That look, that way of touching her hair, that smile and that funny expression.
But also the way she crosses her legs, adjusts her stockings or shoes or straightens her dress.
Knowing how to move slowly, letting endless seconds pass while waiting for something else to crave.
A slow, but continuous, eating with the eyes of a hidden dish that makes you inebriated just by looking at the plating and that promises you, and you know it keeps, emotions that an oily pizza by the slice cannot give you.
The whole show before getting to the point…
Teasing is not something that is an end in itself or that we have a limit to where we can push ourselves.
Once the man is cooked to perfection, you can decide whether to leave him there begging for more or simply indulge him, continuing on a path that secretly has very little to remove desire and transform it into longing passion.
Teasing is that tool that puts a woman on a pedestal.
They all have tits, ass and pussy and taking a man to bed is never a particularly complicated thing.
The difficult thing is to make him a slave to your femininity, annihilate him in his desire and in being, not just feeling, truly special.
Write in the comments what you think and if you also love tasting instead of consuming in a fast food restaurant.
