You are at the right site if you want to improve the way you can give blowjob which in the end will blow your partner’s mind. There are a handful of ways to give the perfect blow job. The fact is that anyone can become a perfect giver depending on how much you practice what you learn. Practice becomes perfect ladies so learn how to blow his mind, pun intended!
It should be exclusive each and every time you do it. The following steps should be followed for best results.
Penises have the reputation of being simpler and less mysterious than vulvas. We have news for you: nothing could be less true. The nerves of our intimate zones are so incredibly complex, what works for one person might not work for another. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t a couple of basic guidelines you could follow.
So what is the secret to a good blowjob or fellatio? It’s actually the same as working in an office: be patient, communicate with each other, be enthusiastic and include active participation of the lucky recipient. Like we said, it’s a bit like a business relationship. Still, you should know a bit about the anatomy as well.
So, let’s start with the anatomical knowledge. You have the head, shaft, and a pair of testicles that all need some attention. For most, the tip of the head is the most sensitive. But beware, uncircumcised penises don’t love harsh touches there, so don’t use your teeth and don’t suck on it too hard. A soft and gentle touch works best. Slow strokes with your tongue or a damp thumb (a little spit does the trick) can feel great for some people.
If you do this well, there is a good chance that they will get a hard-on. Now it’s time to keep your rhythm and variation in pressure. Stroke down and release: chances are they will go wild for the wonderful feeling you give them with this. Also try to pay some attention to the testicles. According to many, these are often neglected during oral sex. And that while some quite enjoy some stimulation and pressure there. Not everyone sings hallelujah at some testicular stimulation, for some it’s just too sensitive, but trying can pay off. Start gently moving, stroking and tickling to see what they think of it. You can also include the perineum (the bit of skin between the end of the testicles and the anus), many find this a very pleasant spot to be stroked.
What does your partner like? Just ask! Big chance they think this question is super exciting in itself. Maybe you don’t immediately get a very detailed answer (or maybe you do) butyou get a complete manual the next day during dinner. Talk about preferences regarding speed, pressure, rhythm, and those secret special spots of stimulation. You might be amazed at what you learn about their body through a curious, playful examination, even if you have been together for a hundred years. Opening the door to sexual communication is not a skill we learn naturally in this society, and it may feel uncomfortable at first – but the key to being a good lover is listening to your partner’s signals, and staying curious.
Clean up!
Now that we’ve spoken about all of that, it’s time to get to the good part: the tips and tricks! Make sure that both you and your partner are clean, so wash your genitals regularly (not with normal soap!) and wear a clean pair of underwear daily. It goes without saying, right? True, but it is something that can make the fun go from good to great. Don’t forget to also wash your hands, as they play an important part in oral sex.
Lube it up!
Most penises can feel a bit dry. That is something you do not want to happen during a good BJ. Each movement on or around the penis should feel wet, the slippery the better! Use spit, lube, whatever pleases you two most. It takes away some of the dryness and that’s pleasurable for both of you.
Don’t use teeth!
There are few people who really enjoy feeling your teeth during oral sex. In fact, it is so rare that those who do enjoy it will most likely tell you that they do so. So it’s safest to assume that your teeth should not play any part in a standard blowjob. Especially if your partner is uncircumcised, because then the head is usually very sensitive. So it could help to fold your lips over your teeth when you are giving head.
Use your hands
Only using your mouth for a blowjob? That’s something that only happens in porn and it is not realistic at all. It’s actually really tiring and most people need more intense and varied stimulation in order to climax. Using your hands gives a nice touch to the blowjob as it adds variety to the pressure, warmth, and wetness of your mouth. Just think about that extra bit of lube.
Try to experiment with different kinds of movements, upwards, downwards, round and slow strokes, and tightly hold on to the base of the shaft. Ask your partner what they like the most, what is stimulating for them. As inspiration: put your hand on the bottom of the penis and start your blowjob. Move your hand and mouth in synchrony, or keep your hand with a constant pressure at the base of the shaft. Another variation: try this with two hands – one can remain on the base of the shaft and the other hand moves up and down the shaft whilst your mouth is focused on the head. If your tongue and jaw need a break, try to switch to hands alone for a couple of minutes. This is a good time for some sexy communication or a good make-out session.
Ice ice baby
If you’ve seen Fifty Shades of Grey, I am sure you will remember that scene where Christian seduces Anastasia with an ice cube when she is blindfolded. It’s not just a great experiment for women, men also can go wild. Suck on an ice cube before going down to create more pleasure and stimulation for your partner. The coolness of the cold ice cube against their hot body… Oh lala…
Deepthroating
Honestly, this is another thing you mostly see in porn. Some people can do it, but many can’t. Your gag reflex is nothing to be ashamed of – it’s there to keep you alive! Many penis owners also say that the idea of deepthroating is often hotter than the actual thing, because you don’t have much variety with it and it’s difficult to avoid the teeth.
If you still want to try it, and your partner’s penis is the right length, consider laying on your back, dropping your head off the edge of the bed or any surface that is as high as your waist (the coffee table maybe?). This way, your throat opens up a little and that makes it easier for your partner to thrust without your gag reflex coming up. Use your hand to put some pressure on the shaft to control the rhythm and to add some extra stimulation. Last tip? Think about what your orthodontist used to say to you: “Breath through your nose!”
Spit or swallow
Honestly? It is completely up to you! Some people love swallowing sperm, some absolutely hate it, and others simply do it because they think it’s part of the act. There is no “must” here. Swallowing is not a must, and if someone is forcing you to do so, they are absolutely in the wrong. Having said that, if you do decide that swallowing is not for you, try to spit it out discreetly instead of running to the trashcan full of disgust. If you want to avoid having to make this decision, switch to just your hands when the time is right.
Cycle Tip!
A vacuum seal double hand twist gock gock combo
If we are to believe the founders Alex and Sofia of the Call Her Daddy podcast (if you know, you know), the Gluck Gluck 9000 is a weak spot for most and so it is a technique that can’t miss in your blowjob dictionary to become the ultimate fellatio master. So what is it exactly? A “new level sloppy wet blowjob”. Better known as using a lot of spit and saliva, like we said before. The sound that the saliva makes is the highlight of this technique, and most find hearing this extremely sexy and exciting.
You use both hands for this popular technique. A bonus is that it makes the receiver feel as if they are well hung. It’s important to remember to twist both hands in different directions. Turn one hand to the right whilst twisting the other to the left (or the other way around) and use your mouth as well.
Neglected but not forgotten
Neglected, but not forgotten: the balls. Place one hand around the shaft of the penis and make sure you have a lot of saliva in your mouth (again). Take one ball in your mouth and gently move it around in your mouth. Vary from one ball to another in this way. Note that not every penis owner likes this. Do you sense that your partner is not getting any pleasure out of it or do they indicate this themselves? Then go back to one of the other tips!
One last thing: don’t do anything you do not want to do. Sex should be fun and exciting for both participants. Don’t put any pressure on it and only do it because you enjoy it and you like doing it. That’s it. Are you excited? We are. Your partner is too. We know that for sure.
Imagine the rush of a first kiss with someone new—the butterflies, the spark, the way your pulse quickens. Now imagine experiencing that thrill with your partner by your side, knowing your love is unshakable and your bond only grows stronger.
That’s the essence of the swinger lifestyle: passion without limits, exploration without guilt, and love that becomes even deeper through shared adventure. This is swinger lifestyle for couples !!!
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Love and Sex: Two Powers, One Relationship
At the heart of swinging lies a beautiful truth: love and sex are not the same thing.
Love is safety, devotion, and the unbreakable connection that makes you feel at home.
Sex is energy, play, fire—the raw attraction and thrill of being wanted.
Swinging allows couples to enjoy both fully. Your love stays sacred, while your sexual world opens wide with excitement, novelty, and indulgence. Instead of threatening intimacy, it intensifies it. After all, nothing bonds two people more than experiencing their wildest desires together.
The First Step Into Desire
Every couple’s journey begins differently, but the path is always guided by trust and communication.
Start with other couples: There’s comfort in knowing everyone shares the same intention—pleasure without pressure.
Set boundaries, then play: Agree on what excites you both and what’s off-limits. Boundaries aren’t restrictions—they’re foundations for freedom.
Take it slow: The anticipation is half the thrill. Let the experience build naturally.
Even the smallest steps—flirting, watching, sharing a first playful encounter—can spark a fire between you that roars long after the night is over.
Fantasies Without Limits
We all carry secret desires—fantasies too daring or specific to fit neatly into our daily sex lives. Maybe it’s a fetish your partner doesn’t share. Maybe it’s a curiosity about dominance, submission, or the thrill of a forbidden touch.
The swinger lifestyle creates a safe, consensual playground where those fantasies can come alive. Instead of bottling them up, you bring them into the light, free from shame or secrecy. And when you do, your relationship shifts from ordinary to extraordinary—a space where nothing is off-limits, and passion never has to fade.
The Thrill of Intimacy Without Strings
Swinging isn’t about replacing love—it’s about unleashing passion.
It’s the adrenaline of new encounters. The heat of skin on skin. The guilty-pleasure excitement of being wanted by someone new—and then returning to your partner with even more hunger.
Far from causing distance, this experience fuels your connection. Every shared glance, every whispered word, every moment of passion only reminds you: our love is unshakable, and our desire knows no bounds.
Why Couples Fall in Love With Swinging
It reignites passion: The novelty of new encounters brings that “first time” spark back into your relationship.
It builds trust: When you explore together, secrets disappear and honesty thrives.
It strengthens love: By separating sex from emotion, you realize how deep and irreplaceable your bond truly is.
It keeps desire alive: Fantasies are no longer hidden—they’re celebrated.
Final Thought
Swinging isn’t about breaking the rules of love—it’s about rewriting them. It’s an invitation to embrace passion, exploration, and intimacy in ways most couples only dream about.
If you and your partner are curious, take that step. Flirt. Fantasize. Explore. You’ll discover that the swinger lifestyle doesn’t just add heat to your sex life—it deepens the love you already share, creating a bond built on trust, fire, and endless desire.
If you and your partner are considering becoming swingers, it is very important to first address the issue of jealously. Jealously is a common problem that affect many relationships and if it is not dealt with correctly, it can lead to more trouble. Being a swinger is all about being free with your sexuality and sharing sexual experiences with more than one partner. That is why, it is important to address the issues of jealously so everyone is on the same page.
If you are a jealous person or if you are the type who is sensitive when it comes to matters concerning sexuality, then swinging can easily ruin your relationship. The truth is that, the swinging lifestyle is not for everyone. Almost every person who is swinger and in a relationship feel jealous at some point. Sometimes it stems from one’s own insecurities, so discuss these with your partners so you are not placed in a swinging situation where your jealous streak will shine.
You may think that you have risen above jealously, but in reality you haven’t. You may not feel jealous when you first start until you actually witness the actual act happening, your spouse having sex with another person, the feeling might be different. This is true especially if you are still in early stages of swinging. You are therefore advised to take things slowly, especially if you are still in early stages to avoid the feel of jealousy from catching up with you.
The best way to deal with jealousy is by sitting down with your spouse and setting rules that should not be broken. For instance, if you and your partner really want to explore on sex but you are afraid that you may be jealous at some point, you can agree with your partner that you will begin with soft swinging, where intercourse will strictly be between you and your spouse while other action can happen with others. As you progress you can upgrade to fully open swinging but you can still stick to soft swing if either of you are not comfortable or feel extremely jealous to upgrade to open swing.
Another key element of dealing with jealously is to talk about it. During early stages of swinging, you may not be jealous but as you progress, you may start being jealous when you see your spouse engaging in sexual act with other partners. Don’t hold it back, talk about it. You can only be success in swinging if you build trust and confidence in your relationship. Communication and honesty is very important when you are in swinging.
4 WAYS MONOGAMOUS COUPLES DISCREDIT SWINGERS
There are numerous false assumptions that surround swinging a private lifestyle that leans towards not following the standard or “accepted” rules of marriage and monogamy. If you would like to be enlightened about the lifestyle or perhaps want to join the bandwagon, you should start by getting to know what swinging is not. Mainstream society usually frowns upon swinging, and, as a result, there are multiple misconceptions that very many people accept as true. Most of these paint an awful picture of what swinging is all about and they can
HOTWIFING ISSUES: DO MEN LOVE THEIR WIVES?
Do you believe that men can still love their wives even though they are involved in Hotwifing? Most women wonder if their men are really into them, reason being that their soul mate advises them to be intimately involved with other men. Some of these women may wonder if what they are being required to do is really possible. It is easy to come into terms with what these women are thinking of the Hotwifing issue, this is because these women have some outlook on how relationship should be and what
JOINING A SWINGER GROUP
Looking for a swinger group? Apart from swing clubs, it is common knowledge that many couples also attend parties organized by lifestyle groups. Swingers who have never been to such group parties may think that they are a low-budget swing clubs held in one’s apartment. However, the truth is that these groups are usually not smaller version of swing clubs but rather more personalized societies of the entire community of swingers. And with different types of swingers also mean that swingers group are many with each catering to a particular
If you are planning to make to another level in relationships with your girlfriend, you have to cunnilingue her. If you want to give your wife some pleasure, cuni is the best option before sex. If your wife is pregnant and wants sex, cunnilingue her.
2. The clitoris is framed by the prepuce which converges towards the bottom of the clitoris and then changes into labia minora. This junction is the most sensitive area in terms of sexual excitement.
3. The female’s clitoris itself is an analogue of the male’s penis. The body of clitoris is located under skin and goes up inside. And the glans of clitoris is an analogue of male’s glans penis.
Let’s remember:
– Female’s labia minora and clitoris is an extremely sensitive area. You can touch it only with your tongue and lips. Teeth – never ever! – Do not go deep into the vagina with your tongue (it is no great pleasure)! – And into the anus either (not all women like it).
Well, here are 10 tips for proper cunnilingus proficiency techniques:
1. Shave yourself. For males.
No moustache, beard or stubble. Of course, over time, a woman may get used to hairs on your face. But even in this case, the moments when stubble touches girl’s vulvar lips will not be pleasant.
2. Prelude. “A woman falls in love with her ears”. The first caress.
Start with nice words telling that you have not seen each other for a while, that all day long you have dreamt about your one and only, most beautiful, most desired woman in the world. Whisper these words in her ears along with licking an auricle, kiss her in her neck. Within 2-3 minutes, your girlfriend will get aroused.
And you should immediately start going down. Kiss and caress the girl’s breast. While you are caressing one breast and a nipple with your lips, do not forget about the other breast and slowly finger over the nipple of the other breast. Keep on doing it until the girl opens her legs a bit.
3. Let’s move on to the belly.
While moving down the belly, kiss it and lick with your tongue all over. At the same time, remove girl’s panties, if she has not done it yet. Spread her legs a little to the sides, move your hands with stroking movements along the girl’s legs – first, stroke one leg, then another one: from the hip along the inner surface to the toes and back. Caress her this way until the woman bends her legs in knees and opens them a bit more, thereby showing the man that she has aroused enough.
4. Let’s start the cuni.
Warning: your tongue must always be soft and relaxed!
Run your tongue over outer vulvar lips all round. 1-2 times.
Open outer vulvar lips with your hands. Quite often, women open them by themselves, instinctively showing where they should be caressed.
A good option is to lift woman’s legs in a bent position, lean on her hips with your wrists and open her vulvar lips with your fingers. One more option is to take woman’s hands and put them on popliteal regions, making her support her legs herself. The third option – the girl sits in a deep armchair and puts her legs on the armrests. But the third option may be uncomfortable because of the bending spine. But when a woman reaches orgasm, she needs to lean forward, which is very uncomfortable in the armchair. That is why it is better to cunnilingue in a back lying position. You can even put a small pillow under the low back.
5. Cunnilingus itself.
Run your tongue along inner vulvar lips moving to the clitoris. Also, all round the vagina. Slowly. Moving one side and another. There should be a lot of saliva in your mouth. Saliva lubricates the girl’s vulvar lips and clitoris.
Let’s move on to the clitoris. By that time, it is already erect enough. And, like the man’s penis, the woman’s clitoris becomes a bit hard. Run with your tongue up and down along the clitoris gently and slowly. Several times.
Then, left and right. Also several times. Do not press with your tongue during the cuni. Just run with it along, excite by your touches.
6. Pull your lips a bit forward, seize the clitoris and surrounding tissues with them.
Slightly, rather imperceptibly, suck in. And gently pull the tissues taken into your mouth. Move your head back and forth, back and forth. Stop for 2-3 seconds. Stroke the inner surface of the girl’s hips. Run your hand around the woman’s perineum. The thing is that when pulling her perineum, a bit, her movements also initiate movements of the clitoris. This way, the excitement enhances slightly, and a variety is introduced to the cuni technique. You can also do several times as follows: put your palms on either side of outer vulvar lips and hurl your arms together slightly, evaginating the woman’s perineum.
7. Once again, open outer vulvar lips with your hands.
Run slowly with your soft tongue along the inner vulvar lips and the clitoris in various direction. 3-4 times.
Once again, embrace the clitoris with your lips. This time, you can embrace it lengthwise. That is to say, position yourself on the side of the woman a little, and your lips will be parallel with the woman’s vulvar lips.
Having embraced the clitoris with your lips, also make some slight movements sideways. But do not go too far and do not be too hard. And slightly-slightly suck in. Do like this 5-6 times.
8. The pause again.
Stroke the hips. You can insert your finger in her vagina and stimulate the G-point a bit – she will reach the orgasm faster and it will be more impassioned.
9. Seize widely the girl’s outer vulvar lips with your lips.
Take them completely into your mouth – from the bottom to the top, suck in. And pull them a bit, moving your head up and down, sideways. At this stage of cuni, this technique itself can make the girl reach the orgasm fast. When the girl starts breathing at a rhythmical pace, moan and move her hips along with the rhythm of movements done by your head, you may go on and drive her to the orgasm which will be very impassioned. Or you may just stop, make a pause for 2-3 seconds, stroke around her perineum with your palms and continue.
10. Open labia majora with your hands a bit harder than usually.
And start gently and softly lick with your tongue in the area where the clitoris changes into labia minora. The rhythm of your tongue’s movements has to coincide with the rhythm of the girl’s breathing. Breathing becomes more frequent – and we make the tongue’s movements more frequent also. Such a slight clitoral excitement usually elevates the girl’s level of sexual excitement even more, while the orgasm will be completely different, unlike the vaginal one.
The second option is to repeat the sucking movements of the tongue in the clitoris area. Also, in a rhythmical pace, in sync with the woman’s breathing, in sync with her moans and movements with hips.
In general, the last 5 steps-tips may be combined in your technique, focusing on one or the other one.
And some more.
The proper cuni technique is, first of all, love and trust. If the girl does not trust you, if she is shy or you are not close enough yet, do not force the events. Otherwise, the poorly performed cuni will later turn into a long-term unwillingness of the girl to have such intimacies. Catch your woman’s behavior during the cuni. What she likes more, what drives her and what she escapes from. Therefore, you can adapt to her individual features.
When should cuni be finished?
As soon as the waves of orgasm calm down, stop moving with your tongue, but keep your lips on the girl’s labia minora and clitoris. Do not move with your head.
Usually, the girl herself will call you, slightly pulling your head towards her with her hands, in order to thank you for the delivered pleasure. Or gently put the girl’s legs on the bed, then put your head on the bottom of her belly and stroke her hips. In 2-3 minutes, she may get aroused again to have vaginal sex.
This is when you will also be able to reach orgasm.
An open relationship is a relationship where you can have sex with whoever you want without any restrictions from your partner. Talk it over with your partner before starting such a relationship.
This will avoid any hard feelings that may come up. You may be that kind of a guy who will like to date many women, be open about it from the start so it doesn’t cause a problem down the line. In such a case, the best type of relationship for you to engage in is an open relationship because it will give u the freedom date whoever you like.
This type of relationship also offers you the freedom to engage in different types of romance with different girls which will satisfy your sexual desires. Here are some benefits of open relationship that you should consider:
You will overcome cases of jealousy in a relationship
In case you have not stated clearly that it is an open relationship, your lover will always feel jealousy if you try to be with other women intimately.
If you neglect to discuss the type of relationship you want with your partner, it will cause problems later in the relationship.
Jealousy in a relationship can sometimes lead to murder or suicide hence being truthful with your partner will rid the relationship of any jealousy issues that may arise.
This type of relationship is not for everyone, but all parties involved can benefit greatly from it.
After you and your partner decide to get involved in this type of relationship, everything will be sorted because your partner will be fully aware that you are free to interact with whoever you desire.
You will enjoy more sex
There are sometimes instances where you may admire a certain girl but is unable to act on those feelings because of the type of relationship you have with your partner.
In an open relationship, you will be able to interact with different girls and experience a variety of sexual partners.
In case you are a man who craves sexual variety, this type of relationship will expose you to different girls hence satisfying your desires.
You will be more satisfied in the relationship
There are some qualities you may like your partner to have but they aren’t in your lover.
You may also be scared to share these qualities out of fear of endangering your relationship.
You may like some aspects in your lover but those aspects that you will miss you can easily get them in other people for you to enjoy life.
In engaging in an open type of relationship, you will interact with different people out of whom can easily satisfy your desires.
This type of relationship will allow you to avoid being in a relationship in which your forcing yourself to stay.
