Last spring my husband and I were looking for an adults-only vacation to celebrate our tenth anniversary. I came across a "clothing optional lifestyle takeover cruise." The materials talked about dance parties, clothing-optional areas, and playrooms, including a dungeon. We assumed "lifestyle" meant BDSM. It was only after we'd booked the trip that we realized it meant swingers. We figured we could still go, even though we didn't plan to participate.
Leading up to the cruise, though, we got to know some of the other couples online and began to change our minds. It started with talk of me being interested in playing with other women and evolved into "Let's just go for it and enjoy all this cruise has to offer."
We really didn't know what to expect when we got there, and were definitely surprised. Some people were completely nude, some just topless, some in tiny outfits, and some fully clothed. We kept our swimsuits on. No one seemed to mind, or even notice, what anyone else was or wasn't wearing.
The first evening there was a toga/gods/goddesses party. My husband dressed as a Roman gladiator and I made a toga out of a sheer purple fabric. We danced with a couple we'd chatted with online, who were in white togas. We didn't get naked, but there was some flashing and roaming hands. My husband and I are "full swap," which means that we are okay with penetrative sex with other people, but their rules were stricter than ours.. They do not kiss or have penetrative sex with others.
After the dance club closed, we all went to the 24-hour outdoor play area. There were beds spaced about every six feet with small tables between them. We all went to one bed and started by getting undressed and making out with our own partners. Soon I felt the woman's hand caressing my breast as I was kissing my husband. Then her husband, while still kissing her, started to finger me.
At one point my husband went to the restroom. While he was gone, the other guy went down on his wife while I kissed her and played with her breasts. Then we shifted and I went down on him while she went down on me. When my husband came back, he watched for a minute, then joined us.
The atmosphere of the cruise made us more open to trying new things.
After a little while, I started giving my husband head while the other couple had sex. He'd had a lot to drink and to his dismay wasn't getting hard. We tried a couple times, but it wasn't going to happen. We played a little while the other couple finished up, and then we all went to the hot tubs.
The atmosphere of the cruise made us more open to trying new things. Throughout the week, we had two more play sessions with other couples, including a six-way group session with the same couple from the first night.
There has to be some physical attraction when we decide who to play with, but the connection we form with a couple is the bigger factor. We want to play with people who are fun and stable in their relationship. We have a very low tolerance for drama. Since we play only as a couple, there has to be a four-way match in terms of attraction.
One day we were talking to a couple and the woman stripped down to nothing but a smile and just kept on chatting. This was very awkward for us, but we tried not to let it show. Ten minutes later, her husband stripped down too. He suggested that we do the same, but we declined. He asked us about making a playdate, and I told him that I didn't think we had the four-way match we needed for us to be comfortable. For the rest of the week she was cordial when we'd run into them, but he wouldn't even say hello to us. I felt bad for possibly leading him on. Unfortunately, that's the way it goes sometimes.
Before the trip, I thought swingers were people who would have sex with any random person. But those we've met want the same thing that we want: friendship with like-minded couples, and if we happen to have fun in sexual ways from time to time, that's a bonus.
Now we play with others about once a month. Unfortunately, there is not a single lifestyle club in the entire state where we live. We play only as a couple and only together in the same room. We like to be within reach so we can play and talk to each other at the same time. It's about group play, not just swapping partners.
Condoms are a must. We both have veto power, meaning that if there is a man I want to play with, my hubby can say no at any time for any reason and it will not happen, whether he's not comfortable with the guy or isn't interested in playing with his wife. We rarely play at our house, but if we do it is only with a couple we know really well, and never in our bed—that is only for us.
We talk to several couples we met on the cruise on a weekly basis. One we've become really good friends with, and we get together often with our kids. We do the same things other families do but sometimes, after the kids are in bed, we lock the door and get naked. Sometimes we start with a dinner date and drinks, or just hang out with the kids until they're all asleep. We might play a game like sexy dice or watch a movie with sexual undertones.
We haven't had a successful session yet with another couple where we both had penetrative sex. My husband overthinks it and can't maintain an erection. We have talked to several other men in the lifestyle and they all said that it is very common in the beginning, especially if you've been exclusively with your partner for a long time.
Neither of us have any romantic feelings for our play partners at all, but we do see them as friends. There are definitely people we are attracted to, both mentally and physically, but romance and love are just for us.
Other than the couple that we said no to on the cruise, no one has ever made us uncomfortable. We have been asked to do things that we have rules against. For example, there is a couple who generally play separately, but we play only as a couple. We've made this clear to them. We still talk to them and joke around; we just know that we won't be play partners and that's okay.
Swinging has helped our sex life, because after a night of playing with others we always come back and talk about the experience and have really hot sex with each other during the conversation. I don't know if we will stay in the lifestyle forever, but we are definitely having fun for now.
”Well, everything starts with my wife Irene – my muse and the guardian of our home comfort. With all these years of marriage behind, I’m still into her. And I’ve started admiring her body even more, having by now studied it better than the one of mine. We make a perfect match in bed, both of us are always satisfied. Yet I have never thought it is bad sex that kindles desire for new people.
When my business partner Eric started seducing me, I thought I’d just turn it into another secret date that Irene would never know about – the way I was doing in previous relationships. But something there stopped me. Probably they were the soft eyes of Beth, his wife. I wouldn't want these eyes to look at me with anger and reproach. And I decided my sex with Eric shall happen only if Beth either approves it or joins us in.
First proposal
It took me some time to think it over. My desire to Eric was still there without ebbing, so one day I took my chance. I said I wanted to have sex with him and his wife. Eric smiled back and replied: “But first this shall be you and Beth. I want you to be my gift to her. And I want you to present me with Irene”. These words made me feel choky. The fantasy of coming as a present to my friend’s wife was the most effective aphrodisiac for me. I was looking at Eric with appreciation, though nothing has happened yet. Because his idea was much better than the one I had.
I knew that arranging a threesome or a quad was not an easy task at all. Where two can find common ground, a third one may come with some nuances. While the proposed decision was brilliant. We start with sex in two; and if we make a match, we can play further on.
This is what actually happened. Beth was shy until her first coming. But this impaired neither sex nor the orgasm. As to Eric and Irene, I don’t know how things happened between them. I remember myself talking her into this first try; her initial respond was indignation and she would not talk to me for a couple of hours. But then she changed it into curious looking at Eric during our joint dinners. Eric and I, we are partners in running a restaurant and thus we sometimes dine together, the two families.
Second offer
I don’t know when she changed her mind; I guess this happened when I was away. But one day she told me about her date with Eric. She said she enjoyed it. I was glad to hear this. It was a different kind of excitement, not the same I felt the moment I was offering my best friend to her. And it occurred to me that what aroused me most was the process of proposing something new, daring and unusual. And so I took the next step: suggested we should have sex in four. Irene agreed at the drop of the hat. This time I did not have to persuade her into.
The next day I made the same proposal to Beth and Eric.
Arrangement details
I shall mention here the issue that may seem boring, but for me this was an essential point. All of us had our tests before the Night. This made us wait a little bit for the event so longed for, but on the other hand it gave us some extra time to think over the details. The dating was arranged in our house. We don’t have children and thus there’s no need to keep to bedroom sex only.
In order to avoid eventual awkwardness of the night’ starting point we prepared some erotic games. It was rather easy now that Irene is an expert in event management. Of course she does not have orgies listed in her professional track record, but she knows the ropes in managing groups of non-structured people. We didn’t play the spin bottle or strip poker or anything of the kind. Right from the start we followed the dark side of our desires. Each of the four was fulfilling desires of other participants in plain sight. The desires had been listed beforehand, we broke them down into three categories: pleasing, exciting, igniting.
First experience continues
I’m not here to describe the process proper, I would only say we enjoyed it. We proceed dating in four, and we plan taking joint trip to a swingers’ resort. Sometimes a two of our four meet alone. No one keeps record of these dates. When in secret, things become even more spicy.
We have planned a joint holiday to meet new couples looking to swing. We are interested in learning other swingers. But since we are people of name in our hometown, extra attention is not something we want.
Aren’t soft swing couples
We’ve been in contact with other swingers on forums and in apps for swingers, and they told us we are nowhere near to soft swing couples that we used to refer ourselves to. We thought that soft swing implies occasional dates with one and the same couple. While real swinging stands for multiple couples, meetings always in four and leaving no space for sex in two. But it turned out that soft swing stands for two couples having sex in one room without partners swapping. Seems strange ‘cos I think this is just usual public sex. I mean, if a couple makes love in park you cannot call it soft swing. But anyway, since we practice partners swapping and in general arrange ourselves in intricate combinations that feature four people we are cool, hard swingers. Seems funny. But now I know for sure that soft swing couples are not our match J “.
John.
This story prompts us to experiments and introduces new ideas to the dreams that we already have. This is why we love reading about fulfillment of somebody else’s fantasies.
It doesn't matter which game you are playing. It doesn't matter what rules you have imposed on yourself. The important thing is that there is always that pinch of unconsciousness and something sinful to discover each time together.
There is no better way of putting the spice back into your relationship than to experiment with couples dating otherwise known as the swinging lifestyle. It’s something that more and more people are looking into and it’s a great way to meet new people and strengthen a relationship while fulfilling sexual desires. Being able to act out naughty fantasies means that couple are less likely to “cheat” on one another because they are given permission to engage in the activity.
To avoid any jealousy from taking over, some couples set boundaries. The boundaries are there to keep their emotional bond between them in place. For example, some couples has a “no kissing on the lips” rule that is adhere to by both partners. Some might think that “sharing” their partner with somebody else would have detrimental effects, but many couples find it actually makes them more open with each another.
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Sex is erotic, pleasurable and keeps us feeling happy – this is what swinging can offer. We weren’t made to have sex with one person for the rest of our lives and we shouldn’t feel that restraint. You can be in love with one person but have sex with many. Exploring your sexual side with both men and women will make you feel alive and much more together in everyday life.
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Last night we finally had our first orgy! It was unplanned but not unwanted because we have always wanted to try this! Me and hubby were invited to a private party – we only knew the hosts and they are actively looking for couples to take part in their weekly orgies.
It was a bit weird at first but luckily we saw another couple we have swapped with before – so, it wasn’t that socially awkward. You always feel pressure at such events to find someone to play with and not just keep to yourself – I mean, it’s not mandatory but if you only watch, you won’t be invited again.
After a while, a couple decided to go in one of the bedrooms with our friends and start the fun with some wife swap. Me and hubby went there too and just watched in the beginning but soon they invites us in and we didn’t hesitate for a second ?
We do have some experience in group play but it was mostly with another couple and nothing more than a foursome. So, we were just a bit nervous because we finally were at a real full-blown orgy! I think there were at least 20 men and women that night in the house.
Last night we finally had our first orgy! It was unplanned but not unwanted because we have always wanted to try this! Me and hubby were invited to a private party – we only knew the hosts and they are actively looking for couples to take part in their weekly orgies.
It was a bit weird at first but luckily we saw another couple we have swapped with before – so, it wasn’t that socially awkward. You always feel pressure at such events to find someone to play with and not just keep to yourself – I mean, it’s not mandatory but if you only watch, you won’t be invited again.
After a while, a couple decided to go in one of the bedrooms with our friends and start the fun with some wife swap. Me and hubby went there too and just watched in the beginning but soon they invites us in and we didn’t hesitate for a second ?
We do have some experience in group play but it was mostly with another couple and nothing more than a foursome. So, we were just a bit nervous because we finally were at a real full-blown orgy! I think there were at least 20 men and women that night in the house.
But watching all of these sexy bodies fucking in bed and moaning with pleasure and enjoying themselves made us really horny. I can’t always cum because I get tired or am too anxious but this time everything made me feel relaxed. And also wanted. Every man there wanted some time with me and this made me feel so pretty ?
I can’t describe it all but you can imagine ? There was lots of fucking, threesomes, even a short gangbang for one lucky lady (I didn’t dare this time). When we left, I was feeling so light and happy that I could go on and on and on!
Last night we finally had our first orgy! It was unplanned but not unwanted because we have always wanted to try this! Me and hubby were invited to a private party – we only knew the hosts and they are actively looking for couples to take part in their weekly orgies.
It was a bit weird at first but luckily we saw another couple we have swapped with before – so, it wasn’t that socially awkward. You always feel pressure at such events to find someone to play with and not just keep to yourself – I mean, it’s not mandatory but if you only watch, you won’t be invited again.
After a while, a couple decided to go in one of the bedrooms with our friends and start the fun with some wife swap. Me and hubby went there too and just watched in the beginning but soon they invites us in and we didn’t hesitate for a second ?
We do have some experience in group play but it was mostly with another couple and nothing more than a foursome. So, we were just a bit nervous because we finally were at a real full-blown orgy! I think there were at least 20 men and women that night in the house.
But watching all of these sexy bodies fucking in bed and moaning with pleasure and enjoying themselves made us really horny. I can’t always cum because I get tired or am too anxious but this time everything made me feel relaxed. And also wanted. Every man there wanted some time with me and this made me feel so pretty ?
I can’t describe it all but you can imagine ? There was lots of fucking, threesomes, even a short gangbang for one lucky lady (I didn’t dare this time). When we left, I was feeling so light and happy that I could go on and on and on!
But watching all of these sexy bodies fucking in bed and moaning with pleasure and enjoying themselves made us really horny. I can’t always cum because I get tired or am too anxious but this time everything made me feel relaxed. And also wanted. Every man there wanted some time with me and this made me feel so pretty ?
I can’t describe it all but you can imagine ? There was lots of fucking, threesomes, even a short gangbang for one lucky lady (I didn’t dare this time). When we left, I was feeling so light and happy that I could go on and on and on!
