Getting involved in the lifestyle can stir up a wide range of emotions, and if these aren’t explored and addressed, the experience can quickly become overwhelming.
One of the most common—and often unsettling—emotions newcomers face is jealousy. Jealousy holds a curious role in society: sometimes it’s seen as a sign of passion, and other times it’s viewed as toxic.
Popular culture often portrays jealousy as proof of true love—just think about those romantic comedies where the main character realizes how much they care only when someone else starts pursuing their crush. In many ways, society has conditioned us to expect jealousy in committed relationships. If you’re not at least a little jealous, people may even question how deeply you care.
But we see it differently. Why should a negative emotion like jealousy be considered proof of love? Isn’t it healthier—and far more fulfilling—to show love through encouragement, trust, and genuine happiness for your partner’s joy?
Life is too short to spend it consumed by jealousy. We believe that time is much better spent building each other up and walking our shared journey with honesty and support.
While jealousy is a natural human emotion, it’s something we should aim to understand and grow beyond, just like frustration, envy, or resentment. It’s a common emotional hurdle for those new to the lifestyle, but it can be managed.
That said, trying to move past jealousy doesn’t mean it disappears immediately.
Most people will encounter it in some form. It’s not inherently bad, and suppressing it doesn’t help. What matters is being honest with yourself about what you’re feeling. Jealousy looks different for everyone.
For some, it may be triggered by affectionate nicknames; for others, it might be physical intimacy like a kiss or touch. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to emotions.
The key is to identify, explore, and talk about these feelings so you can grow through them.
There will be times when you feel uncertain or vulnerable, and those moments can make jealousy flare up. The first, and most important, step is to recognize those feelings for what they are.
That simple act reminds us that we’re human and that emotions—especially messy ones—are completely normal. No one is wrong for feeling jealous.
It’s human nature. And you’re certainly not alone—most people in the lifestyle have been there too.
Being part of the lifestyle doesn’t mean becoming immune to difficult emotions. It doesn’t magically turn you into someone who never feels threatened or insecure.
But the good news is that these emotions can be managed, allowing you to move forward with more awareness and happiness.
When jealousy arises, pause and reflect on what’s behind it. It’s not always obvious.
Strong feelings like jealousy can mask deeper concerns, and it may take time and space to understand what’s really going on. Is this a new emotion for you, or has it been simmering for a while?
Was there a specific event that triggered it? Is there anything your partner—or you—can do to help ease the tension and rebuild a sense of trust and connection?
Taking a step back to analyze the situation gives you clarity.
Once you’ve pinpointed what’s bothering you, it becomes a learning opportunity. For example, maybe watching your partner get ready for a date with someone else sparked envy—not because you don’t want them to have fun, but because you miss the excitement of getting ready for something special yourself.
That realization could be your cue to plan your own adventure. Or maybe hearing your partner praise someone else made you feel invisible—maybe what you really need is to feel seen and appreciated again.
One effective way to manage jealousy is to limit the influence of people who reinforce negative mindsets.
If someone constantly insists that jealousy equals love, or criticizes your emotional growth, it may be time to create distance.
Surrounding yourself with supportive, open-minded people helps you thrive in the lifestyle with less judgment and more encouragement.
What is Compersion?
While jealousy is often the first emotion people associate with swinging, there’s another, much less talked-about feeling: compersion.
Compersion is essentially the joy you feel when your partner experiences happiness, even when you’re not the source of it. It’s a form of emotional empathy—feeling good simply because someone you love is having a good time.
Think of it like discovering a delicious new treat. If you truly enjoy it, you might want to share it with your partner, not out of obligation, but because their enjoyment enhances your own.
You’re not resentful that they get to enjoy your favorite snack—you feel more joy knowing they’re delighted too. That’s compersion.
Or picture throwing a surprise birthday party for your partner.
It’s their moment, but watching their joy fills you with happiness. You’re not jealous of their attention—you’re proud and thrilled that they’re so excited. That’s what compersion feels like.
You can even experience it in everyday moments. Imagine getting a couple’s massage at a spa. You might feel a little more relaxed and content just knowing your partner is also enjoying the moment. That shared joy—that warm connection—is another form of compersion.
Many people enter the lifestyle unaware of compersion, but once they encounter it, it often becomes one of the most fulfilling parts of the experience. Instead of feeling threatened by a partner’s pleasure, they feel uplifted.
That excitement can even add fuel to their own relationship, enhancing their emotional and physical connection.
But like all emotions, compersion can’t be forced.
You can’t just decide to feel it, especially if you’re someone who regularly struggles with jealousy. It takes emotional work, self-awareness, and honest communication to get there.
And if you don’t feel it right away—or ever—that’s okay. It doesn’t make you a bad partner or mean the lifestyle isn’t for you. Still, for many, compersion becomes a powerful and affirming part of their journey.
Group sex may be an exciting addition to your sex life and especially so if you and/or your partner are into the unconventional and kinky. Group sex may feature in your lifestyle and sexual preferences or may just be an item you eager to cross off that long bucket list. Either way, a good start to making a reality of it is in finding participants; consenting adults, willing to come out and play.
Finding group sex participants may be particularly challenging, especially in a rigidly conservative society that unanimously disapproves such indulgences, looking upon them with evident frowning. The larger community may consider individuals that associate with this practice moral degenerates, who are left social pariahs that everyone is eager to give a wide berth. However, there are several safe and orthodox approaches and tried alternatives to finding these partners as highlighted.
Look to a friend
Through social interaction, you and/or your partner may notice persons within your circle of friends with an adventurous spirit and a sense of wonder regarding matters sexual. This would definitely be the first person(s) to pitch the idea of group sex to. It makes it even more interesting if you have an attraction for this person and a gush of sexual energy, characterized mostly by uninhibited heavy flirtation defines your encounters.
A group sex experience may change the dynamics of your friendship. It is important to establish ground rules and discuss possible eventualities, as well as address all concerns raised before diving in.
Online platforms
One of the most common places to find individuals with similar interests is Swinglifestyle, it is the biggest site for group sex and is free. You want to avoid personal ads on online platforms such as Plenty of Fish or on Craigslist because it is not private. SwingersTaboo gives you a great selection to choose from and you can look through the profiles, apply filter techniques and find exactly what you are looking for.
It is important to stick with a safe site like Swinglifestyle, as there are many psychos and criminals trawling online. As a precaution, meet this individual in a public place and share a moment as you get to know each other before actually inviting them into your bedroom for a group sex session.
Scout the options together
Finding a person for your group sex plans may be as easy as jointly picking someone. It could be that attractive young man behind the bar in your favorite pub, or the beautiful woman who has been stealing glances your way all night. You and your partner may consciously look around, discuss possible options, eventually make a go for it, and approach the person together.
Swinger clubs
Swinger and other such clubs are always a great place to add to the numbers for your group sex team. The upside to this approach lies in the fact that you can expect no judgment as the community consists of similar-minded individuals. One-on-one interactions also help create a connection before moving to having a group sex encounter.
Group sex, in its many variations is a practice that is more common than many would care to admit. These highlights outline safe ways to meet and partner with persons that share this interest.
Just open a cam site, do a search on the internet or simply browse a couple of free social networks and you will notice how there is a series of open thighs, widened asses and wide open mouths in which, I would say at will, you can stick whatever you want.
One thing has become rare, both in social women and in those you meet every day and that is the ability to charm and make you melt with gestures that are not the classic imitation of the “MistyBitch” of the hard movies of the 80s.
And yet there are those who still resist and make charm their weapon of mass destruction
The hungry and the tasters
If you have already reached this point in the reading we have skimmed the classic hungry and desperate subject who, due to his poor ability, needs to eat anything and needs a direct and explicit message.
People who if there is no pussy pussy, ass ass, tits tits in the first 4 seconds after a click, are not able to read or understand ^^
I often like to make the example that the hungry and poor man (in spirit in this case) needs a clear and explicit photo of what he has to eat. A plate of half a kilo of t-bone, a box of mixed fried food, 2 tons of hamburgers.
He doesn’t care if the plate is plastic, if the cutlery is not exactly clean, if instead of napkins there is a roll of toilet paper. He is hungry and has to eat.
The most refined people, those who have the possibility to choose (for content creators, try to understand why a high number of followers often does not correspond to adequate earnings) instead do not try to feed themselves, because they can eat when and where they want, but they are looking for sensations and the small details make the total difference.
Now, it’s not that the most refined will never eat even a dish of substandard food in the most sordid of restaurants, but it’s definitely not their first choice.
Teasing
It is a term that can be translated as “Provoke” and that is the typically feminine ability to conquer one’s prey without necessarily having to show cleavage or gestures in close-up that are so direct that they end up being extremely vulgar (for the most refined palates).
That look, that way of touching her hair, that smile and that funny expression.
But also the way she crosses her legs, adjusts her stockings or shoes or straightens her dress.
Knowing how to move slowly, letting endless seconds pass while waiting for something else to crave.
A slow, but continuous, eating with the eyes of a hidden dish that makes you inebriated just by looking at the plating and that promises you, and you know it keeps, emotions that an oily pizza by the slice cannot give you.
The whole show before getting to the point…
Teasing is not something that is an end in itself or that we have a limit to where we can push ourselves.
Once the man is cooked to perfection, you can decide whether to leave him there begging for more or simply indulge him, continuing on a path that secretly has very little to remove desire and transform it into longing passion.
Teasing is that tool that puts a woman on a pedestal.
They all have tits, ass and pussy and taking a man to bed is never a particularly complicated thing.
The difficult thing is to make him a slave to your femininity, annihilate him in his desire and in being, not just feeling, truly special.
Write in the comments what you think and if you also love tasting instead of consuming in a fast food restaurant.
An open relationship is a relationship where you can have sex with whoever you want without any restrictions from your partner. Talk it over with your partner before starting such a relationship.
This will avoid any hard feelings that may come up. You may be that kind of a guy who will like to date many women, be open about it from the start so it doesn’t cause a problem down the line. In such a case, the best type of relationship for you to engage in is an open relationship because it will give u the freedom date whoever you like.
This type of relationship also offers you the freedom to engage in different types of romance with different girls which will satisfy your sexual desires. Here are some benefits of open relationship that you should consider:
You will overcome cases of jealousy in a relationship
In case you have not stated clearly that it is an open relationship, your lover will always feel jealousy if you try to be with other women intimately.
If you neglect to discuss the type of relationship you want with your partner, it will cause problems later in the relationship.
Jealousy in a relationship can sometimes lead to murder or suicide hence being truthful with your partner will rid the relationship of any jealousy issues that may arise.
This type of relationship is not for everyone, but all parties involved can benefit greatly from it.
After you and your partner decide to get involved in this type of relationship, everything will be sorted because your partner will be fully aware that you are free to interact with whoever you desire.
You will enjoy more sex
There are sometimes instances where you may admire a certain girl but is unable to act on those feelings because of the type of relationship you have with your partner.
In an open relationship, you will be able to interact with different girls and experience a variety of sexual partners.
In case you are a man who craves sexual variety, this type of relationship will expose you to different girls hence satisfying your desires.
You will be more satisfied in the relationship
There are some qualities you may like your partner to have but they aren’t in your lover.
You may also be scared to share these qualities out of fear of endangering your relationship.
You may like some aspects in your lover but those aspects that you will miss you can easily get them in other people for you to enjoy life.
In engaging in an open type of relationship, you will interact with different people out of whom can easily satisfy your desires.
This type of relationship will allow you to avoid being in a relationship in which your forcing yourself to stay.
I’m not an exhibitionist. And while I enjoy sex, I’m not into anything out there or over-the-top.
Which is why I was surprised to find myself, a few weeks ago, having sex with my husband while a group of strangers watched.
So how did it come to this?
Out on a dinner date out a few weeks ago, my partner and I were cruising around the streets with a post-meal ice cream when we came across Sydney’s Couples Club.
Curious, we Googled it when we got home to see what that discreet unmarked door was hiding.
Turns out, it’s a sex club and its monthly First Time Friday night was coming up. On a whim, we decided to check it out.
It felt like less pressure to visit during a time when we wouldn’t be the only ones who had never done anything like this before.
To swing, or not to swing?
We didn’t necessarily go with the intention of swinging, swapping partners or even “playing” (as the site described) with others – we were just curious and keen to explore something sexually new.
We love visiting strip clubs together (who doesn’t love a gorgeous woman dancing around?) so we knew we’d be comfortable with nudity, but laid out a few ground rules before we went.
For us, we decided if we felt like it, we would be game to have sex in front of others. We weren’t up for letting others join though, and agreed if it was something either of us wanted to do in the moment, we could talk about it afterwards and go back for another visit to possibly pursue.
Our first First Time Friday
The Friday finally rolled around, and I had a glass of wine while getting ready for the evening.
I put on a new set of Agent Provocateur lingerie and sent a selfie to my BFF (who is a psychologist and was also super curious to hear about our experience) before we grabbed a bottle of champagne and hopped in an Uber — the club is BYOB, but there’s a bar you bring your alcohol to so a bartender can serve it to you.
As soon as we arrived, we were buzzing. After climbing three flights of red carpeted stairs, were reached the entrance where we were told the house rules: simply approach others you’re interested in, but if they put up a palm, it signals “no”, and vice versa.
Other than that, the jacuzzi, outdoor terrace and play room were our proverbial oyster.
Setting the mood
We headed to the bar to have a glass or two of champagne first and take in the scene. Several screens showed various porn movies, there was a stripper pole in the middle of the room, and the bartender was in fishnets and underwear.
Several other couples were hanging around the bar, and within moments, a woman was bent over and being spanked. It was more humorous than sexy, and everyone seemed to be trying really hard to look natural and comfortable.
As we finished our drinks, a dancer entered and cleared the room to perform a striptease on the pole.
An older man loudly whooped and yelled throughout the entire performance, but it wasn’t anything crazy and we decided we wanted to go downstairs to see more.
Several open yet separate rooms had various beds and couches scattered about, and most were occupied with couples having sex or several people tangled up in each other.
Props like whips and paddles decorated the rooms, and there were attachments against some walls to tie someone up with.
Our turn
My partner and I saw a small, empty room containing one small bed and looked at each other and shrugged. “Why the hell not?” we thought.
I jumped on top, and during the time were we in there, a steady stream of people approached to try and join or just watch.
For me, I wasn’t particularly turned on by that, but wasn’t bothered either as obviously it came with the territory.
The verdict
After we got dressed and left, we agreed we were glad we went (and came), but did it more for a good story than it being something either of us were really into.
Every person and couple has their own preferences and fetishes, and if exploring with others is your thing, it’s definitely worth checking out.
